Diary of a stressed house officer| 5 coping tips. 

Hey guys! How’s it going?

I’m currently in Lagos for just two days. 😦 I wish I could stay longer but i have to go back to work on Monday, yes I’m aware it’s a public holiday but when you’re a Doctor, public holiday is nothing exciting. It’s just another day. Especially if you’re on call, it’s pretty much like a weekend call. 

Anyway, im home and wide awake so I decided to type this post. 


Let’s get right in, shall we?

1. Prepare your mind for the worst. 

I don’t mean to scare you but it works well for me. I prepare my mind for the worst and  nothing can really surprise me anymore. Just know it’s going to be one long year and once you’ve accepted the fact that you’re in for struggle, you’ll be fine.

2. Eat. 

I really have no shame for confidently writing this because I have a terrible eating habit. I go from not eating to binge eating and the cycle goes on and on. It’s very easy to be overwhelmed with work and forget to eat. Yes, I didn’t think it was possible to forget to eat either until I started housejob. Have snacks in your bag. Work can go from zero to one hundred real quick and before you know what’s happening, it’s 8pm and you’ve not had a proper meal all day. 

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Be nice but not too nice. 

I know it’s like I’m contradicting myself but I started house job with the ‘I’m going to be nice to everyone’ mentality and it didn’t take long for me to be like ‘uh fuck it’. Nigerians don’t like nice people. Nigerians respect you when you’re mean and you yell. Sadly. I mean, I’m not saying disrespect anybody but don’t let people walk all over you especially the nurses because they tend to think they know better and they always want you to do what they want you to do but if you really know what you’re doing, they can’t bullshit you into doing anything. Bottom line is know what you’re doing and stand your ground. Respectfully tell them to do their work and do yours. Nurses can be your best friend and your worst nightmare. 

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Don’t forget to read. I can count how many times I’ve opened my book to read. You’ll learn everyday and it gets overwhelming sometimes but get a small notebook and write down things you see/hear/learn so you can find time to go over them. I can’t promise you that you’ll find time. From being on call and not sleeping to doing 5hour ward round to being yelled at. Honestly, all I think about is sleep. I can’t come and die. Housejob kinda makes you better at clinical skills than theory because who has time to read honestly? 

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Rest. Rest. Rest.

I know this might sound like a foreign term to you but you gotta find time to rest. Even if you have to ’tissue’ to sleep. Do what you gotta do smartly. Except you’re ready to overwork yourself and burn out/collapse. I’ve heard stories from people i know and random people of how doctors faint at work from exhaustion. How sad is that? I have friends that have collapsed at work. It’s really not that deep. Do your work but try to rest. If you’re known to do your work well, no one can fault you for taking some time off to rest. I know it’s hard for some people *coughs*. I’m a workaholic and I barely rested these past few months but hey, even if I can’t take my own advice i can help someone out there! 
I hope you enjoyed reading this post. 

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Drop a comment!

– TOSIN 

Medicine in Nigeria. 


I don’t even know where to start the rant from tbvh. 

We have a big problem in the health division of this country.  Doctors work like slaves yet we get peanut salaries. 

We are overworked constantly. Maybe I should stop generalizing this. 

I am always angry everyday. 

Do you know how exhausting it is to be angry everyday?  I know someone has whispered that  ‘you’re in control of your Hapiness’ bullshit.’ Thanks for your input sis, I’m aware but when you work for 48hours straight and they are still blowing up your phone to do something for them, my first response is not ‘I’m in control of my Hapiness. So I’m not going to be angry’ my first response is ‘what kind of rubbish is this? Are there not rules in this place? Are you freaking mad? 

People (senior colleagues) need to stop taking advantage of we the junior ones. It’s disgusting tbh. Frankly, I don’t care if one of them read this post. It has to be said. 

Not only do we get sent on stupid errands, which is very unprofessional btw but we also get spoken to anyhow. Like bro/sis, dont be unfortunate. Don’t speak to me like you’ve got no manners. 

Everyone frustrates you. Your fellow doctors, the nurses, patients relatives, even the hospital maid and the cleaner. It’s almost like damn, when are we actually going to focus on the patient. 

On a ward round, your senior colleague that obviously does not know how to speak and correct politely will yell in front of the patient, their relatives and the whole ward  about how useless the young doctors are. I will say though that not all of them are like this. I’ve worked with some amazing people who taught and corrected young doctors with respect. 

You ask the nurse politely for the patient’s chart, you get yelled at. When you correct their mistakes and ask them to do their work, they gather and say you have attitude problems. Ok ma. 

The nurses don’t wanna do their work. All they want to do is call you that a patient’s IV line is in tissue. I’ve had to go site a line three times on the same patient in one night. This patient whose veins i could barely see despite the tourniquet was voluntarily removing it and the nurses did not really care. I mean it’s the doctors that site line so for all they care, he can remove it five times. So I mean, let him remove it and bleed every now and then. Where is the love? 

Hospital maids/attendants/whatever else they like to be called don’t wanna do anything. All they wanna do is sit and talk all day. Once you tell them to go pick up drugs or drop something at the pharmacy, you’re looking for trouble or you tell them to go drop a sample at the lab. They’ll complain( yes, in front of everyone) about how they’re tired of walking and how they can’t walk far distances. Sis, why are you getting paid then? I don’t have energy because my response is always ‘ Ma, it’s your job o. I didn’t help you apply to a busy hospital as a hospital maid. So please do your job or quit.’ Stupes 
Now let’s move to the patient’s relative. This one is a bit cultural. Nigerian adults think because you’re a young lady, they can speak to you anyhow. Like can we all respect ourselves here ffs! Or the younger relatives that call you ‘sister/nurse/eysss’. I had to tell a young man to never call me ‘eysss’ if you don’t have brain cells to see I’m a doctor and should be called doctor then I really don’t know again. 

A recent encounter with a patient’s relative 

Walked to the patient to resite his IV line. The whole place was a mess. (Half empty pure water satchets everywhere, used plates on the desk where his IV fluids and consumables should be. Opened the drawer and ended up touching a used spoon. FFS!!!! 

Me: Hello, are you his son? 

Him: Yes.

Me: you need to clear this place. This whole place is a mess. 

Him: IS IT ME THAT DID IT NI? ABEG SISTER DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. WHATS YOUR OWN WITH USED PLATES? AH O GA O. 

At this point he got me fucked up. 

Me: ARE YOU SERIOUS? A YOUNG MAN LIKE YOU SEEING HOW NASTY THIS PLACE IS AND THATS WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF. PLEASE STEP OUTSIDE NOW!!!!! LIKE I DONT WANT TO SEE YOUR FACE HERE WHILE IM RESITING THIS LINE. MORE THAN HALF OF THE THINGS I NEED TO RESITE LINE YOU DONT HAVE. YET YOU CANT BE HUMBLE AND LET PEOPLE HELP YOU.

GO GET 5 PINK CANNULAS, COTTON WOOL  AND GLOVES SIR. 

He insisted he was not going to leave. Super cute. 

Of course he left when i almost got security involved. You must be mad to think you can come and disrespect me at my place of work. Absolutely mad. 

Its funny how if it was a huge male Doctor, he’d almost be prostrating every time. Trash. Nigerians are disrespectful. No manners. Nothing. 

So imagine going to work and having to deal with all these people every single day. 

I’m legit a very angry person now. Like I already had low tolerance for nonsense but now I don’t even think I have tolerance again sef. 

I try to be positive and just not be so angry all the time but it’s really hard when everyone makes your work 10x harder than it should be. 
We really need to fix up in this country because patients will continue to suffer for the mess. I’m not going to work for 48 hours barely eating and sleeping and not snap at someone stupid. 

Ok I’m done ranting. 

Have a good weekend. 

I’m on call on Sunday and Im not answering any phone calls today because I can’t come and die. 

(PS- If you’re planning to work in Nigeria as a Doctor, don’t do it abeg. Don’t say I didn’t warn you o) 

– TOSIN 

Two months….

You guys! I have two months left and i’m done with house job. I’m so excited!!! I’m officially starting a countdown. I can’t wait.

It feels like i started just yesterday. It really went by quickly. I remember feeling some type of way about moving to Ibadan. I remember the orientation process and my first day as a Doctor. It was overwhelming. How naive and clueless i was! It was ridiculous.

I have learnt and grown so much. I have met some cool people. I have worked with some stressful people and commended myself on how much I’ve grown by just being able to deal with them.

I started my internship with Obstetrics and Gynaecology, then moved to paediatrics and then Surgery. I’ve completed the first month in Medicine. .

I remember finding out I was posted to GIT/Liver unit and I was sad and happy at the same time. Sad because the unit is mad stressful in this hospital and happy because I actually don’t mind GIT. It was my favorite system back in Med school. I even did an elective rotation in GIT. That’s how much I loved it. 

The first month was a bit stressful as I was getting used to the unit. People weren’t exactly doing their work so it made everyone tense. I don’t mind the unit now though. I know what’s expected of me and what I need to do. 

Personally, I’ve been feeling somehow. Not sure if I can call it depression because that’s pretty big but I just don’t know if this is what I want to do with my life. I’m not sure being a Doctor makes me happy. A lot of people have said it’s probably because I’m in Nigeria and everything here is stress but deep down I feel like I’ll be miserable if I end up doing this forever. I’ve spoken to a few people about it and everyone is basically like you’ve got your whole life ahead. Ultimately, you gotta do what makes you happy. I mean, I love helping people feel better. It’s really overwhelming when you see someone come into the hospital really bad – almost dead ‘bad’ and they eventually leave conscious and well. It’s really amazing and the feeling that you played a role in making that happen is not something I can even discuss. Tew much! But I still wake up and feel sad. Almost like this is not what I should be doing with my life. Hopefully , i figure it out soon. Pray for me guys! 

On to happier news, I met my cute ass nephew last week. 😍  I’m looking forward to finishing housejob and starting NYSC much later in the year. I also look forward to next month as I’ll be welcoming my second nephew to the world. Super exciting. Titi is getting married in August so that’s super lit. Such a blessed year for my family tbh. 

What kind of post would this be if I don’t share pictures from the past few months? 
For more pictures follow lifewithtwotees and napphotog on instagram. 

Olivia’ cafe

So as I said in my last post, I’m in the children’s emergency ward this month and it’s a shift like system. So guess who has the day off today? Yea, me! I have more time now to chill with friends, eat, sleep and just live. One of my friends decided that we should go for breakfast on Sunday but I did night shift on Saturday and wasn’t able to leave till past 11 am on Sunday. So it sorta became brunch. She told us about this place where they sell bomb pancakes. We eventually got there around 2.

I really liked the decorations and the way things were set up generally. It’s such a cozy place.

Sadly, we were not only too late for breakfast but they pretty much did not have any of the food I wanted. So I was already a bit depressed. They were somehow able to get pancakes for my friend which turned out to be shit.

So, I ordered spaghetti bolognese. It took forever to get ready. I was really over it at some point and we all know I’m not the most patient person. My other friend ordered a burger. After the one hour wait, our food finally appeared. 


What I ordered turned out to be okay. Somehow I ended up having diarrhoea. I’m not saying it was caused by the food o. *Coughs*. 

We later went to get ice cream so that might have contributed. 

Overall, it wasn’t a bad place to eat. I just think we went at the wrong time. The chef was probably different.  It’s a cozy place to spend time with your partner, friends, or parents. I really liked the décor but they definitely need to work on the quality of the food because we are not paying money for decoration and fine environment. 

I’ll go there again. I’ll give them a second chance….. I don’t know why I still think theyre not so bad. My friend that ordered burger feels differently. Lmao the bread literally divided as she lifted the burger. It was tragic. 

Anyway, here are some more pictures.

It’s almost Christmas and it does not feel like it. I’m thankful for this year and everything that happened..good or bad. I think I need to write a post of the things I’m thankful for. It’ll be a good way to wrap up the year. 

Are you excited for 2017? I am because I’ll be finishing my internship next year. 

Hope you enjoyed reading this post. Share and leave a comment. Thanks ! 

– TOSIN

Life as a house officer. 

Hey guys. First of all, I’m pretty sure my followers/readers outside Nigeria might not understand what house job is all about. 

Its basically your internship year. Your first experience as a Doctor after med school. It is also when you start earning money. 😉

We are at the bottom of the chain as the consultants here keep emphasizing. So basically, we do three months in each department (medicine, obgyn, surgery and pediatrics). 

I’m starting with Obgyn and for the first month I’ve been posted to GOU (Gyne oncology unit). I wasn’t particularly thrilled by this. I mean, who wants to wake up to see cancer patients everyday? Not me! It is quite depressing but I’m not so sad because I hated gyne oncology in med school so I guess this will give me an opportunity to learn and know it by force. 

So, during the three months posting in different units in O&G, you get to do one week in labor ward, another week in Gyne Emergency and then your one week leave. One each month. 


Guess who started with labor ward? Me. I was initially not excited because its usually very busy and unpredictable but I’ll still do it anyway and apparently to get your leave, you must have done your two weeks outside posting. 

First day in labor ward was not bad. They only allow scrubs and slippers in labor ward. I still dont understand why bathroom slippers sha. It was not as bad as I thought it’d be. I heard it was a punishment zone like if you do something wrong in your unit, they might post you to labor ward. The have the first stage area, the second stage area and then the post partum area where they stay till theyre transfered to the warda. The most common diagnosis here from my one week there is preeclampsia.  Basically, we do ward rounds with the registrars, snr registrars and consultants, review patients, fill investigation forms, take blood samples, assist in any procedure being done, assist in the surgeries being done, give IV drugs, take vital signs and deal with any complaint the patient has. Its not as easy as it sounds. I barely got a chance to just relax but the thing is its very unpredictable so it might get quiet for like an hour and next thing you know, they’re wheeling three patients in.  I was excited though. 

If you’re not on call, you get off work 5pm (5 was never really 5 tbh)  but if you are on call, it’s till 8 the next morning and you resume your normal duty. Stress. 

I did my first call in gyne emergency. Bruh. I never hexperret it. I barely slept for two hours. The emergency room here is under construction so it was just chaotic. I learnt a lot though and it was exciting. 
I’m back to my unit on Monday and I have a ward call that day. Hopefully, it goes well. 

This post is mainly for those that asked for house job update. 

So far, so good. I’ll try to keep y’all updated.

Have a good weekend! 

– TOSIN

Bay Lounge| Review

Not too long ago, I stopped by at bay lounge with a friend. this was my second time going there.
I absolutely love the place. The best time to go is right before the sun sets. Gosh. that view is what you’re paying for tbh and no regrets.

the music is good. sometimes they have live bands (like the first time I went there).

The waiters are really nice (even if its because of tip, still remarkable).

I’ve not tried their food. The first time I went, I got long island, the second time I got pina colada.
the cocktails are 2k (not bad). Of course there are some expensive drinks on the menu but hay, my eyes went to what I could afford.

Here are some pictures I took with my friends phone (Samsung s7)…. I need this phone in my life! I should’ve put it on my wish list.

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if you’re looking for a place that’s not so crowded to get drinks with your friends or partner with a view that’s to die for, in Lagos? Then I’d definitely recommend Bay lounge.
They might have slight problems now that’s its rainy season sha but it reminded me so much of the Caribbean and I loved it.

What your favorite place to get drinks with your friends in Lagos?

– TOSIN

The Lagos Home Show/ Foodie in Lagos Fair

Hey guys! We told y’all we were going to be at the Lagos home show. Well guess what? We were there.

We got there pretty late tho. It started around 12 noon and was supposed to end at 7pm. We got there almost 5pm. Getting a place to park was a struggle. I guess that means it was a success?

I was more excited about the food part tbh but because we were late and I wasn’t like fully impressed with what I was seeing, I decided to get zobo first which was N300. The girl at that stand was quite nice too. Shout out to you. Whoever you are!

I actually thought id buy at least one item but honestly, the prices were not exactly friendly considering I’m jobless atm (This might change very soon! Yay!). The little money I have, I’m not sure I want to spend it on household stuff. There were a lot of cute items tho. I wish I had money or a new house to decorate.

Here are some pictures. I already shared some on our twitter/instagram page (@lifewithtwotees) and will be sharing more so follow us jor.

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I look like I was really admiring Titi in this picture. :/

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The zobo was bae!

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E (friend) got small chops and it wasn’t so great apparently. The chicken was too salty. The guy selling was really nice tho. I had HOTR small chops earlier in the day so I already satisfied my small chops craving.

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The venue was really nice. The view was great. It was a good show altogether.

We’d probably look into selling some assessories at the next show.

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We hope you have a lovely weekend.

  • TOSIN / TITI