I haven’t written a personal post in a minute and I haven’t been so active on Instagram so I thought I should share what I’m currently up to.
So I’m currently…
Accepting that sometimes things are not okay or going to go well and that’s life. It’s not necessarily about me or what I’m doing right or wrong.
Reading two books atm. If Beale street could talk by James Baldwin and When the crawfords sing by Delia Owens and funny enough I see some similarities. Loving both so far! I have three paperbacks and two ebooks on my TBR list this month.
Loving my new job. I’ve learnt so much in a such a short time. It’s actually quite amazing. I also love that it’s flexible and I get to sleep at home every night. #Winning.
Practicing this self love thing. I read about it and I’m always reposting things about self love on my instagram story but I have been trying to actually go beyond just reading about it. When life gets overwhelming, I am practicing self love and taking care of my mental health.
Feeling stressed but blessed. I’ve had a rough first quarter of the year and to be able to say I’m feeling blessed is a blessing on its own.
Trying to be more patient with people I love. Trying to see things from their perspective sometimes and not react based on my expectations.
Learning to save for the rainy days. Y’all I don’t know how to save and it’s mad stressful. I usually blame it on unplanned expenses but It’s really just an excuse.
Interested in volunteering. I mentioned this thing last year but somehow never got around to it. Please I need an organization that needs volunteers. It’ll be nice if it’s easy to join as well. Know any? Please share! I’m actually begging guys.
Hoping to get all the schmonayyy I need for all the numerous exams and plans I have before the end on the year. Pray for me guys!
I know this list can go on and we’ll be here till tomorrow so let me stop here so you can get back to your life.
Thanks for reading. Feel free to share what you’re currently doing in the comments section.
There’s a popular saying about how time waits for no man. Have you ever wondered the patience levels it has for women? Non existent!
So it was that on this particular day, Titi and I were bored and wanted somewhere to pass time and have fun. Somewhere close with good scenery and food – also fit for our musings without distractions.
And so we prepared but then, it seems every time we want to do something together in Lagos, the weather decides to f*ck shit up! Because down came the rain. See, I’m not even sure why it’s raining in March. 🤷🏾♀ Anyway, we weathered the storm (see what I did there?) and still headed out. The focus was obviously on a place with a nice indoor ambience and proximity to the house.
We decided on Circa Lagos. We’d heard a lot about this place and it was fun to finally be here
There is a “Circa non pareil” located on Admiralty road. This is more of a bar I think. Circa Lagos is located at No 2 Kola Adeyina Close, Lekki phase 1.
On getting there, we saw the famous wall and decided to have a mini photoshoot. The security guy on duty politely agreed to take pictures of us. He was even open to corrections as regards the positioning of the camera. This was already a good sign as far as we were concerned.
After our photoshoot, we entered the restaurant and noticed it’s a small space compared to most restaurants in Lagos but it has that minimalist vibe which we absolutely love.
We loved that It wasn’t so crowded as well maybe because we visited on a week day.
We came there to work and they had free WiFi. So it can actually double as a quick work space if you’re a creative. Obviously we were loving it but the most important thing for me is the food. It’s not ambience I came to eat dears.
We quickly scanned through the menu and placed our order. I ordered Fish and fries (because I’ve learnt that in Lagos I’d rather be safe than sorry) with a strawberry margarita. Titi ordered some sort of seafood Alfredo pasta with a virgin Pina colada.
The waitresses were polite and indulged our numerous requests to take pictures of us while we waited for our food. We didn’t have to wait too long before the food arrived and the food was so delicious. The portions were not bad either. I don’t eat large portions but I was full and still had some to take home with me. I wasn’t so impressed with the cocktail – maybe because the week before I had the same cocktail at Crossroads and it was heavenly but I wasn’t so bothered because the food made up for it.
The budget for having a decent meal here is approx. 10k per person.
I got at least 3 Instagram messages from random people saying they really love the restaurant and the food there. So they are definitely doing something right.
So if you’re looking for a cute , intimate restaurant for lunch or dinner alone or with friends in Lekki, then Circa Lagos is the place for you.
You can follow us on Instagram for more pictures because like I said we had a mini photoshoot and you must see everything.
Location – With google maps you should easily locate it. However it does not look like a restaurant from outside so you might think you’re entering someone’s house.
Budget – At least 10k per person
Ambience – 👍👍👍👍
Food – 🤙🤙🤙🤙.5
customer service – 👍👍👍👍👍
I hope you enjoyed reading this review. Have you been to Circa Lagos? Will you revisit ?
So a little personal information, You know how it seems like Nigeria is set up to just frustrate you and drive you bonkers? I’ve been experiencing that first hand recently as I’ve been struggling with getting a decent job. It’s been about 2 months now and lately I find myself getting moody and sad about it and life in general – tempted to use the word depressed but then I’m a doctor and I know I absolutely am not depressed.
I often get in these moods on Mondays maybe because I feel every responsible adult is off to work and I have nothing much to do. Recently however, I have found 6 ways to get out of these horrible moods and I know someone is going to see this post and just relate or even try my get-out-of-a-bad mood plan and it just might work for them! . So hey! I thought I’d be nice enough to share.
The first thing i do is pray – I don’t know if this is a regular thing to do but it works for me. I pray and then make a list of reasons to be thankful in my head and then I go ahead and just thank God – especially for the fact that I even have a list.
To be honest, I feel just slightly better right after praying so I move on to the next thing which is
– Eat. I find something I’m craving and eat it. Don’t worry if you feel guilty for spending money you’re not making. It’s normal. Just eat. – try to eat healthy o cuz I won’t be blamed/ responsible if you have chronic illnesses. (Haha!) Thanks
– After eating, If i still don’t feel better, I call or talk to a friend. Just let it all out. If possible cry. If the tears are held up, I just talk and talk until I realize I should probably let my friend get on with her life because I mean she has a life and things to do as well. I believe in the power of positive venting especially to someone who actively listens.
Also please, be sensitive and always ask if your friends – no matter how close y’all are, are available to talk. Don’t just bombard people with rants.
I usually feel like 70% better after praying, eating and ranting but then they don’t call me napaholic for nothing. I take a sweet nap. Guys I always wake up feeling refreshed (except the devil is working overtime that day) and at this stage I’m like 80% better.
To round it off, I go on the internet and read random peoples stories – mostly HONY. Nothing gets me out of my shitty, unemployed, sad mood as fast as a story of how things could be so much worse.
Tip: (sometimes, what we need is to attract positive stuff, so reading success stories is also another way to get going)
Now usually I’m about 90% better and I snap out of it and just get on with my day and try to be as productive or unproductive as I can be.
I remember asking people on Instagram how they get out of bad moods and here are some replies I got.
Be by myself for a while, self pep talk, listen to music.
Eat, cry and sleep.
Change the environment or write it out.
Go out of my way to be nice to someone.
A good read, music. Sometimes I call any of the really great people in my life.
Listen to music , paint or I lay down and go to my own imaginary world. It’s not so bad there.
If you’ve read up to this point, I hope you’re already feeling better. Also, don’t forget to share with your friends and family.
I’d like to know how you get over a bad mood. Who knows ? It just might help someone out there!
We all have that friend or group of friends we absolutely love to hang with, yes? But ever found out if you really know them into their deepest secrets?
Watched a movie the other day that brought this to the fore. Titled “Nothing to hide”
Now, it’s about a bunch of old friends who decided to play a ‘game’ during a dinner night hosted by one of the couples.
The rules of the game were quite simple – everyone has to place their mobile phones at the center of the table and every text message, phone call, email, Facebook message, etc. will be shared verbally with everyone else at the table.
This is clearly a recipe of disaster. A typical example of ‘if-it-ain’t-broke-don’t-fix-it’.
As the evening proceeds, It unravels a whole lot of hidden issues as they all had something to hide, phones go off, bitter truths are revealed, feelings are hurt, and old friends quickly realize they really don’t know each other completely.
My favorite scene was the father – daughter conversation – Daughter called her dad about losing her virginity and he said “If it was just for me, I’d say don’t do it, don’t ever do it. Stay my little girl forever. But that’s impossible.”
“Nothing to hide” is a good balance of funny, touching and dramatic moments. I particularly loved the plot twists, the ending was unexpected.
I thoroughly enjoyed it and recommend this.
This movie just reiterates the fact that mobile phones and social media allows us to build a life that is probably far from the truth.
IMDB rated it 6.8, I’ll rate it 8/10.
What would happen if your private messages were read in public? Will you play this game?
So, I’ve always been known to have that one close friend ever since I knew or thought I knew what friendship was all about. I’ve never had a group of friends. I sometimes wish I do but I’m happy with the 3 close friends I have.
When I was in primary school, I remember having just one close friend, then I moved on to secondary school where I also had one close friend from JSS1-3, as I changed classes in SS1, I somehow stopped talking to my old close friend and got another close friend. Everyone in school knew us together. We were inseparable!
At this point, i hadn’t realised my habit of dropping close friends once we had nothing in common again and acquiring new ones
Then I moved to another continent at 16 and the prospect of friendship became brighter for me. My first friends happened to be two in one. Two sisters who became my sisters. We talked, gossiped, laughed, cried, read together and it was amazing but then I had to go back home for a year and of course we didn’t speak as often as we used to (If the internet is so horrible now. Imagine how it was over 10 years ago) so of course, the worst happened. We drifted apart. I returned a year after but I didn’t expect them to stay friendless waiting for me to fill the vacuum I left. It wasn’t easy for me and I felt like all my friends had left the country at that point so I kinda just put the whole friendship thing on hold.
Just when i thought all hope was lost, i moved to a new apartment and guess what? I met the most amazing girls. I didn’t want to invest too much so soon because I knew I had less than 2 years left in Med School but as life would have it, we bonded over our life struggles, med school struggles and boy problems. I left but they remained my closest friends till date because i was deliberate about the friendship. I knew i couldn’t continue dropping my close friends as i moved on with life.
Then I moved back to Nigeria in 2015 and it just hit me over 3 years later that I actually have just one close friend in Lagos. I have friends don’t get me wrong. But is the person your person if you can’t call at 2am and expect a response (if they’re awake obvs)?
Adulthood is so hard you guys. It’s a struggle and a half to make friends as an adult. Everyone is so busy with life and i only get to talk to my close friends every other week sometimes month! Honestly, I think that’s alright. I love that everyone now understands this and we always pick up where we left off.
I believe in doing what works for you. I think we don’t need to put so much pressure on friendship. This is not me saying you won’t be deliberate. Oh man, I’m blabbing! You get the point though yes?
Friendship is something I struggle with but I know I’m not the only one struggling.
So I decided to ask a couple of friends (old & new) what friendship means to them and what a true friend is. ( Trust them to give me mini essays when I asked for a couple of sentences.)
Here are some responses I got.
Friendship to me is having someone in your corner that supports you. Someone you can be open to without the fear of being judged, someone to call you out on your bullshit, someone that rejoices with you on your wins. Most of all someone that understands you as a person and wants the very best for you.
A true friend is someone that is there for you through your ups and downs. An honest confidant.
For me, Friendship involves getting to know each other, accepting each other for who we are while still working together to get better where we are not. And because humans continuously evolve, friendship is a continuously evolving relationship.
To me, a true friend is someone who respects, appreciates, encourages and supports you genuinely. It is someone who wants to see you succeed just as much as you want to succeed, at any level and in any area of life. It’s also someone who would not be afraid to correct you when you’re wrong, and to speak the truth when needed. It’s also someone who would defend you in public, but then scold you behind close doors (when you deserve it). And even if you don’t stay in touch, you know you have a true friend when whenever you talk, it feels like they never left.
I think friendship is a bond/connection between two people. You share a special connection with this person and you always want to make sure they are happy..Trust and loyalty is very important for me..Having a listening ear is also important…we don’t need to talk everyday for me(except you are a boy) but you should be willing to listen to me when I need you.. I think a good friend is someone that should be forgiving and patient otherwise the friendship will not last because people always make mistakes and no one is perfect. A good friend should be able to shut his/her damn mouth when i tell you a secret…Now all these things should go both ways…A good friend should be an advisor ( tell you when you are going on the wrong path, to be honest i am struggling with that myself).Some people want good friends but they are terrible friends themselves ( they remember only when they need something 🙄🙄🙄). One thing i can not tolerate in is jealousy (i run away from such friends).
Friendship to me can mean anything or everything, depending on my mood and my viewpoint. Broadly speaking, I’ll say It is a bond or an unspoken agreement between atleast two people. It is that silent force that binds you and restrains you from doing any wrong(intentionally) to the person you’re in that agreement with. It’s way deeper than how we mostly interpret it. Friendship is trust. It is loyalty. It is a commitment. It is a decision. It is a gift that must be cherished. It is openness. It is honest dealing.
A true friend is one who sticks by, regardless of my shortcomings. He/She is one who would go any length to ensure my wellbeing, without necessarily having any expectation. One who genuinely cares and is unbiased in his/her dealings with me. A true friend sings of my strengths and complements my weaknesses. One who harbours hatred and resentment for me, yet laughs with me to my face isn’t a true friend; nothing is wrong with registering one’s displeasure. Forgiveness must have a free course in genuine friendship. Having true friends around me makes me go to bed with zero worries, I know they always have my back.
Don’t you just love the responses! Well, I absolutely enjoyed reading them and to think I didn’t post them all.
Do you agree with the responses? How would you describe a true friend. Most of all, Are you a true friend?
Travelling can be such a drag sometimes – from the long queues, navigating airport security, uncomfortable plane seats (oh Lord help if you’re stuck in a middle seat) to unending transit hours and arrival anticipation. But what if i tell you it doesn’t have to be this burdensome?
Everything/Anything can be fun if you plan ahead and guess what? I’ve highlighted some tips which I’m certain will enhance your travelling experience.
First thing i like to do and suggest is Check in online.
Most airlines give you the opportunity to check in online. This window normally opens 24 hours before your departure time. So for example, if your flight is for 10pm on Friday, the online check in portal opens at 10pm on Thursday. The perks of this are numerous. 1. It buys you some time to get to the airport, so you can avoid the airport queues to check in. Just proceed to print your boarding pass and show at the counter. 2. We can agree that a trash seat can make your entire trip a horror story. With this, you have the opportunity to select from the available best seats to avoid being assigned randomly. This is also useful if you’re traveling with a partner – so you don’t get assigned random seats. POINT TO NOTE (not all flights have 24 hour online check in. Some have 48 hour windows etc. so do some research to find out)
Keep your travel documents close – If you’re not on a direct flight, endeavor to keep your travel documents close, you don’t want to be unpacking your hand luggage every time you’re asked to show it at the various check points. I’ll suggest a fanny pack or a specific corner in your bag you can easily reach.
Light hand luggage – Is it just me or don’t you roll your eyes at people with “hand luggage” like main luggage, you see them struggling with different boxes while trying to get a charging spot at the airports (read my Nigeria sister and family).I will always recommend light hand luggage, something that you can easily monitor for security purposes and just to make your transit a little less stressful.
Books/TV to keep you busy – I feel like books/TV shows are usually more fun while traveling but again that’s probably a ME thing. I try to catch up on a chapter or two of that book i’ve not had the time to read or shows i need to catch up on, thankful for Netflix, you can remotely access and enjoy. So before you travel, try to download your favorite shows so you can binge watch (while waiting) even without internet.
Dress loose/comfortable – Personally i wont recommend jumpsuit. Maxi dresses, track suits, and leggings are my favorite travel outfits. If possible, avoid belts or anything metal that will need to be removed during screening.
Cash Always – Have some cash, for spontaneous activities like accessing a lounge or getting coffee. It may or may not have anything to do with my lack of trust in Nigeria cards or maybe I’m just old school but what can really go wrong with that?
Long transit times and general travel delays can really make you want to tear your hair out. These are just some of my suggestions on keeping your sanity through it. How do you survive? Let’s talk.
It’s been a long minute, right? Seems like we were gone till November, no? We have no legit excuse for our little disappearing act but let’s just say life has been overwhelming, in spite of that, here we are!!!
Thankful for good health and life, we hit the streets again.
The backyard Lagos has been on our “to go” places for a while but somehow it just never happened. Maybe the name made us believe we could just access it whenever, but reality hit and it was a struggle finding the free time to make this happen.
But then, look at God!
He made a way and we found the time to embark on this long-postponed visit. We started off a bit skeptical because a previous visit to one of our ‘to go’ popular places turned out an entire let down as the food was ridiculously poor and our fuel spent was non-refundable. So yeah, you see why we were a bit nervy -There’s no money to waste please.
Delightfully dressed down in denim dresses (see what we did with the letter ‘D’ there?) sourced directly from our store – oh, you don’t know we have a store?! Shame. Please keep up and check it out here – We opted for the simple, casual look to easily blend in and be as comfortable as possible. By the way, our outfits are very very affordable. You really should check them out Here.
Locating “the backyard” was pretty easy thanks to google maps. Our stomachs seemed to scream with excitement soon as we got there and we rushed for the food menu faster than you pull out your cash from a dispensing ATM. After going through the menu we both decided to go with TBY’s chicken burger and Chapman.
The item prices weren’t over the top. With an average of N6,500/7,000 you’ll get good food and a drink.
Guess the surprise guys? We did not have to wait for years for the food to arrive. In fact we were a little shook by how fast it came and the fact that it was sooooo goood. (Major points here!)
The burger was very juicy and yummy. We absolutely loved it. Tosin ordered wedges and it was really one of the best wedges we’ve had in Lagos. (Please we’ve not been everywhere yet, if your wedges are better, invite us and we’ll come)
Having said all that, it’s one thing to have good food and it’s another to have ambience. The backyard actually nailed both.
Overall it was a really good day and we will totally visit again! Money well spent.
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Hey people! I haven’t posted a book review in a bit not because I’m not reading but life has been a bit crazy lately. I shall be doing a life update post soon.
I absolutely loved loved loved reading this book. Titi actually bought it on her trip to Bermuda. If you haven’t read about her trip, you can read about it here, here and here.
Book Title: How to stop time
Author: Matt Haig
Published February 6, 2018 by Viking
‘The first rule is that you don’t fall in love’ he said… ‘There are other rules too, but that is the main one. No falling in love. No staying in love. No daydreaming of love. If you stick to this you will just about be okay.’ A love story across the ages – and for the ages – about a man lost in time, the woman who could save him, and the lifetimes it can take to learn how to live Tom Hazard has a dangerous secret. He may look like an ordinary 41 year old, but owing to a rare condition, he’s been alive for centuries. Tom has lived history — performing with Shakespeare, exploring the high seas with Captain Cook and sharing cocktails with Scott Fitzgerald. Now, he just wants an ordinary life. So Tom moves back to London, his old home, to become a high school history teacher — the perfect job for someone who has witnessed the city’s history first hand. Better yet, a captivating French teacher at his school seems fascinated by him. But the Albatross society, the secretive group which protects people like Tom has one rule: Never fall in love. As painful memories of his past and the erratic behavior of the society’s watchful leader threaten to derail his new life and romance, the one thing he can’t have just happens to be the one thing that might save him. Tom will have to decide once and for all whether to remain stuck in the past, or finally begin living in the present. How to stop time is a big hearted, wildly original novel about losing and finding yourself, the inevitability of change, and how with enough time to learn, we just might find happiness.
I read this book in one week.
It’s a strange but awesome book. I love books that make me imagine things, books that take me on a journey, books that can temporarily have all my attention and this definitely ticked all the boxes. It started off a bit slow and confusing but it started to make sense as I progressed. Although, the end was a bit predictable, it was what I hoped for and was still intriguing.
The story revolves around the main character Tom Hazard, a man who has a condition called Anageria which develops around puberty which in plain terms means he aged slower than the regular human. He looks a year older every 15 years. How insane? He looks about 41 years old but in reality is 439 years old. He took us on a journey of his life from 1599 to present day 21st century. The timeline was a bit too scattered for me. It went from 1982 to present day to 1599. I still was able to follow but I’d have preferred if it wasn’t so scattered.
Another aspect I liked was that he incorporated famous people like Shakespeare, Captain Cook, Scott Fitzgerald and his wife Zelda into the story. Although it was a bit pointless if you look at the book as a whole but I found it super cool partly because I haven’t read about the lives of these people.
Of course having lived for over four hundred years, Tom has seen it all. Literally. He went through loss and then love and Hapiness and more losses. Everyone has a thing to learn from our obsession with time and the future. I don’t want to share too much so as not to spoil it for you but it’s definitely a good read! I gave it 4 stars!
‘As you get older you realise you never get away with things. The human mind has its own prisons. You don’t have a choice over everything in life.’
‘It doesn’t matter that we age differently. It doesn’t matter that there’s no way of resisting the laws of time. The time ahead of you is like the land beyond the ice. You can guess what it could be like but you can never know. All you know is the moment you’re in.’
‘But the thing is: You cannot know the future. You look at the news and it looks terrifying. But you can never be sure. That is the whole thing with the future. You don’t know. At some point you have to accept that you don’t know. You have to stop flicking ahead and just concentrate on the page you are on.’
Have you read this book?
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How’s it going? I hope you’re enjoying the long break. I somehow got sick 😰 and thankfully I have till Tuesday to rest!
You might be wondering what I’ve been up to lately. Or not. I’m going to share anyway. I’ve actually not been up to much lately. This month has been the most challenging month for me. I cried and stayed up late thinking a lot, over stressed about everything. Such an overwhelming month! Spent money on things I didn’t think I’d spend my money on. I’m much better now though! Thank God.
I saw this currently blog post idea on Pinterest and oh boy there are so many verbs. We’ll be here all day if I decide to do everything. I just picked a few.
Anyway, I’m currently:
1. Accepting the fact that life sucks sometimes but one just has to find ways of dealing or coping with it.
2.Reading Tomi Adeyemi new book ‘Children of Blood and bone’. It’s so interesting. Started yesterday so I can’t have a formed opinion yet. So far so freaking good though.
3.Loving the bookstagram tag. People are so creative and it’s inspiring to see. I follow the tag so photos pop up on my IG feed every now and then. Did you know you can follow tags on Instagram? Well now you know. 🙂
4.Practicing my picture editing skills – with apps I’ve had for the longest time but never really use. So far so good!
5.Listening to Brymo’s new album. That guy is fantastic. If you haven’t listened to it yet get on it. Shalla to Apple Music! Not sure I can pick my fave yet. Will update y’all on IG story.
6.Praying that all my heart desires are granted. I need a breakthrough. 👏🏾
7.Feeling sick. Being sick is literally the worst. Like the absolute worst. I hope I feel better soon.
8.Trying to understand why you people only read and don’t comment/Share your thoughts. Are the posts not relatable ? I’d really like to know why. 🙄 We’re open to constructive criticisms.
9.Hoping that I’ll finally get my shit together. Ladies and Gentlemen, It’s about damn time!
10.Learning to sometimes chill and not be so confrontational. If you know me, you’d know that I am always ready for confrontations. If I don’t like what you’re doing, best believe I’ll confront you and let you know but last last Who confrontation epp? Im learning to pick my battles. Can’t be confronting every single person that annoy me. It’s draining.
Also learning to actually listen to people.
11. Interested in volunteering for organizations that pay attention to the community one way or the other. Hit me up if you know any! I have a lot of free time.
Did you enjoy this post? If there’s anything you’d love us to talk more about or share, feel free to let us know ! Also, I hope you’re following Titi’s travel story on Instagram. Follow us on Instagram to catch up if you’re not already following. She can’t update the blog every day because it’s stressful actually living your best life and trying to update everyone at the same time but not to worry! She’ll be sharing all about her trip when she gets back. She’ll also be doing a similar post to the one you just read! 🙂
Enjoy the long weekend! Spend time with people you love and live your best life!