Diary of a stressed house officer| 5 coping tips. 

Hey guys! How’s it going?

I’m currently in Lagos for just two days. 😦 I wish I could stay longer but i have to go back to work on Monday, yes I’m aware it’s a public holiday but when you’re a Doctor, public holiday is nothing exciting. It’s just another day. Especially if you’re on call, it’s pretty much like a weekend call. 

Anyway, im home and wide awake so I decided to type this post. 


Let’s get right in, shall we?

1. Prepare your mind for the worst. 

I don’t mean to scare you but it works well for me. I prepare my mind for the worst and  nothing can really surprise me anymore. Just know it’s going to be one long year and once you’ve accepted the fact that you’re in for struggle, you’ll be fine.

2. Eat. 

I really have no shame for confidently writing this because I have a terrible eating habit. I go from not eating to binge eating and the cycle goes on and on. It’s very easy to be overwhelmed with work and forget to eat. Yes, I didn’t think it was possible to forget to eat either until I started housejob. Have snacks in your bag. Work can go from zero to one hundred real quick and before you know what’s happening, it’s 8pm and you’ve not had a proper meal all day. 

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Be nice but not too nice. 

I know it’s like I’m contradicting myself but I started house job with the ‘I’m going to be nice to everyone’ mentality and it didn’t take long for me to be like ‘uh fuck it’. Nigerians don’t like nice people. Nigerians respect you when you’re mean and you yell. Sadly. I mean, I’m not saying disrespect anybody but don’t let people walk all over you especially the nurses because they tend to think they know better and they always want you to do what they want you to do but if you really know what you’re doing, they can’t bullshit you into doing anything. Bottom line is know what you’re doing and stand your ground. Respectfully tell them to do their work and do yours. Nurses can be your best friend and your worst nightmare. 

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Don’t forget to read. I can count how many times I’ve opened my book to read. You’ll learn everyday and it gets overwhelming sometimes but get a small notebook and write down things you see/hear/learn so you can find time to go over them. I can’t promise you that you’ll find time. From being on call and not sleeping to doing 5hour ward round to being yelled at. Honestly, all I think about is sleep. I can’t come and die. Housejob kinda makes you better at clinical skills than theory because who has time to read honestly? 

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Rest. Rest. Rest.

I know this might sound like a foreign term to you but you gotta find time to rest. Even if you have to ’tissue’ to sleep. Do what you gotta do smartly. Except you’re ready to overwork yourself and burn out/collapse. I’ve heard stories from people i know and random people of how doctors faint at work from exhaustion. How sad is that? I have friends that have collapsed at work. It’s really not that deep. Do your work but try to rest. If you’re known to do your work well, no one can fault you for taking some time off to rest. I know it’s hard for some people *coughs*. I’m a workaholic and I barely rested these past few months but hey, even if I can’t take my own advice i can help someone out there! 
I hope you enjoyed reading this post. 

Want more tips? 

Drop a comment!

– TOSIN 

Dating in Lagos

Hey guys.
I didn’t want to share this but I figured someone out there may or may not have experienced something similar and just want that someone to know that they are not gullible or stupid. I also want to share some lessons I learnt from it all and who knows? Someone might learn a thing or two.
I’m not saying you should have trust issues o but keep reading.
So I decided to go into this dating thing. I’m not much of a ‘dater’ tbh. I like being alone. Being jobless for a while made it even worse. I just hate the stress of meeting people, liking them and being disappointed. Don’t get it twisted, I like the going out part sometimes, having someone new to laugh with, go out with, try new things with other than your family and friends.
So, I decided to sort of date two people because I kind of met them at the same time. Let me just call them A and B. I wanted to give y’all the full gist because frankly I don’t care if they read this but It’s a long story so I’ll just summarize it and save y’all the stress.
Now, I don’t know about you girls but after a while, I can’t keep up with two guys so I obviously had to narrow it down to one eventually.
A was not my type physically but I decided to look beyond that. Clearly, I didn’t look too far because apparently he had a girlfriend of four years and lied about it. Four bruh.
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How did you miss this? You might be asking. Frankly, I don’t even know. I guess when someone is constantly messaging and calling, you just sort of assume he does not have a girlfriend especially after he tells you  he’s single. Ya know? Before I found out,  I told him I don’t think anything will happen here tbh. Ko le werk.
Did i mention that when i told him i dont think we are compatible, he blocked me on whatsapp and unfollowed me on twitter and I was like

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While gisting with my friend after the blocking drama, she told me he has a girlfriend. What a freaking wawu. I know.

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Lesson learnt from that experience is to talk to friends that might know the person you’re dating. Don’t say he’s just a guy I met, why investigate so much. Girl, Ask lots of questions.. not only to the guy you’re dating because they tend to lie about having girlfriends, but to people that know him. I personally don’t like to put my private life out there but clearly in Lagos you have to investigate everything because married men are out here trying to date single girls. ASK MY SISTERS. Lagos is small, someone will know someone that knows him. LOL.
B that I decided to focus on turned out to be a liar. LOL. I literally thought it was jazz.

Like bruh how does one lie about what they’re doing in life? It had me confused. Like I had to ask how he planned to keep up with the lie forever.
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For obvious/other reasons, I had to drop him too. * Boy, bye*- In Beyonce’s voice.
Lesson learnt: Forgive yeah but move the hell on. If a nigga can lie about what he does regardless of the reason, keep it moving. You don’t need that kind of person around sis. Also, as I said earlier, ask lots of questions. Don’t assume shit. People lie about everything and don’t ever underestimate a guy’s ability to make you feel guilty for his mistakes.
There is no way to know if a guy is a liar by just looking at him. I wish there was some sort of technology for that. So you just gotta keep your eyes open, ask questions, talk to your friends (they might know someone that knows him) and don’t be naïve and too quick to think you’ve found the one so you won’t get disappointed. I’m sure there are lots of good guys so this is not in any way a ‘ALL GUYS ARE LIARS’ post.

I hope someone reading learnt a thing or two from this post.
What kind of person would I be if I did not share some tips with my sisters. 😉

XOXO
Tosin

Bay Lounge| Review

Not too long ago, I stopped by at bay lounge with a friend. this was my second time going there.
I absolutely love the place. The best time to go is right before the sun sets. Gosh. that view is what you’re paying for tbh and no regrets.

the music is good. sometimes they have live bands (like the first time I went there).

The waiters are really nice (even if its because of tip, still remarkable).

I’ve not tried their food. The first time I went, I got long island, the second time I got pina colada.
the cocktails are 2k (not bad). Of course there are some expensive drinks on the menu but hay, my eyes went to what I could afford.

Here are some pictures I took with my friends phone (Samsung s7)…. I need this phone in my life! I should’ve put it on my wish list.

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if you’re looking for a place that’s not so crowded to get drinks with your friends or partner with a view that’s to die for, in Lagos? Then I’d definitely recommend Bay lounge.
They might have slight problems now that’s its rainy season sha but it reminded me so much of the Caribbean and I loved it.

What your favorite place to get drinks with your friends in Lagos?

– TOSIN

Life | Update

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Hey y’all! How are y’all doing?

I’ve got some good news. Sort of. *DRUM ROLLS* I have a job somebody shout Hallelujah!!!! One slight problem though; I don’t get to start till like June/July. I was hoping to start as soon as possible but I’m not complaining or anything. I’m super grateful. However, I’m not putting my eggs in one basket. I already applied to another hospital in Lagos months ago and they finally scheduled the exam/interview which I did on Saturday. I know right? Why would they do that to us. Saturday! So hopefully that goes well because if it does, I might get to start immediately.

A lot of people have advised me to go out of Lagos and apply which I did but nothing forthcoming so far. I don’t see the point travelling (flight/road)to far places in Nigeria for a job when I know damn well, knowing at least one person there is vital. I love my life too much to start entering bus anywhere outside Lagos. Speaking of life. God saved my life last week Friday, I went to deliver food for my mom (She’s a badass cook!). I will talk about that in another post so stay tuned.

On the way back, the front tyre tore while getting off the bridge. Oh boy! It was dramatic. We thank God sha. The driver was able to stay calm and move us to the side of the road. He changed the tyre and we were on our way. Now minutes before this, he said he noticed the tyre on the other side is flat so we stopped and pumped the two on the other side. Little did we know!

I know God kept me. God’s mercy kept me. I’m not better than anyone that died that day but I believe God has a plan for my life and honestly I fully trust him with my life. Sometimes things happen and you just look up and say ‘Thank you God, I know that was you!’

Some things we are looking forward to;

We plan to have some photo shoots soon. Titi and I. Hopefully, we get time and make this happen. So stay tuned for that.

To start a series on my house job experience when I start working. That should be fun!!

A lot more to come but I can’t start saying everything now. 😛


I hope you have a lovely week! Don’t forget to thank God and pray everyday!

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What has been going on in your life?


P.S – Titi has a minor eye surgery today! Pray for her guys! 🙂

XOXO

TOSIN

The Lagos Home Show/ Foodie in Lagos Fair

Hey guys! We told y’all we were going to be at the Lagos home show. Well guess what? We were there.

We got there pretty late tho. It started around 12 noon and was supposed to end at 7pm. We got there almost 5pm. Getting a place to park was a struggle. I guess that means it was a success?

I was more excited about the food part tbh but because we were late and I wasn’t like fully impressed with what I was seeing, I decided to get zobo first which was N300. The girl at that stand was quite nice too. Shout out to you. Whoever you are!

I actually thought id buy at least one item but honestly, the prices were not exactly friendly considering I’m jobless atm (This might change very soon! Yay!). The little money I have, I’m not sure I want to spend it on household stuff. There were a lot of cute items tho. I wish I had money or a new house to decorate.

Here are some pictures. I already shared some on our twitter/instagram page (@lifewithtwotees) and will be sharing more so follow us jor.

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I look like I was really admiring Titi in this picture. :/

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The zobo was bae!

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E (friend) got small chops and it wasn’t so great apparently. The chicken was too salty. The guy selling was really nice tho. I had HOTR small chops earlier in the day so I already satisfied my small chops craving.

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The venue was really nice. The view was great. It was a good show altogether.

We’d probably look into selling some assessories at the next show.

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We hope you have a lovely weekend.

  • TOSIN / TITI

Beach day | Socialiga

Hey guys! So I promised to share pictures from the beach party we went to on Saturday.

The struggle was real getting there tho but it was worth it.

We left pretty early. We got there before 9am. The cruise there was not bad coming from someone that’s just terrified of anything in Nigeria that can potentially lead to a situation where emergency services are required.  We got lost on the way there tho until we met up with the other ferries and they finally figured it out.

Getting to the location, I was pleasantly surprised then I was disappointed because the beach house had a fence so high you cant even see the beach from the house. What’s the point then? I thought.

But I eventually understood why they did that though. There are a bunch of locals living around the house so I guess they were sorta protecting it?

Anyway, too much story. Just take a look at the pictures. I was so excited to go to the beach  ( I mentioned in a post on Instagram how I’d not been to the beach in over a year and if you know me, you’d find that shocking! )

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There are a lot more pictures but I can’t exactly upload all of them.

Pictures were edited using VSCO.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to comment/share and stuff.
(P.S- The name of the beach is Ikare beach)

I hope you have a great week ahead!

– TOSIN

March over already?

Hey beautiful people! How’s it going? It’s been a while eh. We’re sorry. I don’t even know what I did with my life this March tbh. So Imma just drop this outfit post here and keep it moving.

I forgot to tell y’all (Well, if you’re on my snapchat – mz_tosin, you’d know this). I got a tripod! YAYYYYY? A lot of people have been telling me my picture taking skills are getting better and I’m actually really excited about that. Since this medicine thing does not seem to be working out so well atm, I might as well explore my other interests.

My friend got married today. Congrats Oyin and Solomon. The wedding was beautiful.

Sadly, I didn’t get the aso ebi/gele and I don’t have a lot of natives. Actually, I literally have like four natives. I need to do better obviously. So I didn’t know what to wear (If you’re on my snapchat, you’d know this too. Get on it! Jeez!). I decided to wear an old black top I’ve had since 2007 i think? with a lace skirt. A lot of people liked my outfit surprisingly. Oh and I tied my gele myself!Shout out to Youtube. Always coming through for me. It just hit me how much I spend on things I can actually do myself. So I’m team DIY now! The economy is not friendly.

Sadly, I didn’t take a lot of pictures. Since I got my camera, I noticed I barely take pictures of myself.

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(P.S- I know my face looks really fat. Deceit. I’m still quite small but I love the lil weight gain tho. The goal is to be team slim thick by the end of the year!)

(PPS- Do you like my gele? This was my first time not paying someone to tie my gele so don’t be mean! It was pretty easy too. I also like the fact that it’s not so huge)

(PPPS- I found this very funny YouTube video about a Nigerian couple.Watch it here.)


 

Let me know what you think of it.

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Thanks for reading!

  • TOSIN