Post housejob Life – Atican beach 

Hey guys! 

A lot of people keep asking what I’m doing now that I’ve finished housejob.  Honestly, I wish I had like a focused/deep answer to tell y’all but the truth is I’ve basically been trying to gain weight, hanging with my family, meeting new friends, reading a whole lot – non medical books. (Stop judging me! Sheesh!), working on making the blog better, watching YouTube videos on photography, trying to explore Lagos. 

If that isn’t focused, then I don’t know what is.

On Saturday, we went to the beach. Now a lot of you should know that I love going to a good beach. Unfortunately, Since I’ve been back in Nigeria – 3 years now, I’ve  honestly not been to a good beach. I know my standards are high coming from the Caribbean – beach heaven but i’m really not asking for too much. Nice clean white/black sand, clear blue water- okay maybe that’s a reach, tiki bar or a beach bar/restaurant, shade, nice blue sky is also not a terrible addition for the sake of the pictures and the gram! . I mean, is this really too much to ask for? 

It’s very hard to see a clean beach in Lagos. I’m not sure why people are so dirty and think it’s normal to throw stuff in the ocean. Like have some self respect. Sheesh. 

Let’s not even talk about how hard it is to get a nice picture on the beach with the background looking like a refuse ground.  
Due to my terrible experiences, I barely go to the beach. In fact, I don’t think I own a bikini anymore. Totally not related to the fact that my ‘six pack’ abs is like one pack now. 

This is almost turning to a rant. Typical. 

Anyway, Last Saturday trip to the beach was initially supposed to be me going for my boyfriend’s friend’s birthday party but my people also decided to go to the beach- impromptu. I was already conflicted like damn. How will I divide myself now. Lo, and behold. It turned out to be the same beach. Look at God. 

It wasn’t so difficult to locate the beach as one of us had already been before but we still had to get a bikeman to lead us there for N200.

On getting there, we paid N1,000 each. My nephew obviously did not have to pay so I assume it’s free for kids? 

There was a car park area which I think is quite nice. The hustle to park cars in this Lagos is real.


It is super family friendly. There was a playground for kids. There was also a fun ride for adults/kids which we eventually decided to go on- turned out not to be free. It was N500 per person. I don’t know why I feel like they just looked at us and gave us price but maybe that’s just the Lagos babe in me talking. N500 is not too bad tho. 

This is manual as per two guys literally rolling the thing with their hands.

The view from up there. Magical.

I had a mini panic attack and told the guys to stop because i needed to get off ASAP!


There were different bamboo shades with tables/seats where you could chill. The joke was when a random guy came and said we should pay N15k for the space. Super cute.

Considering we were just four adults and one kid, we decided not to pay. Lol

 


We did not pay because he said we could stay but we shouldn’t put our stuff on the table so people will know the place isn’t occupied. Lmao smh 
There were different people selling stuff from bracelets, earrings,headbands, to goat meat -asun, chicken and chips, and coconut water. 

Bae got me the bracelet but I got the earrings and the headband for N500



The coconut water bit reminded me so much of the Caribbean. I miss the Caribbean so much. 

There was also free music and random guys offering horse rides – Not free obvs.
Loved the fact that there were nice places to take pictures. However I Didn’t like the fact that the beach was crowded but who no like better thing? I heard it’s never really crowded normally though. 


I really really like this beach and would definitely go there again.


Name of the beach – Atican beach. 

Location – Somewhere in Ajah. 
What other beaches do you know in Lagos? 

Have you even been to Atican beach? And did you like it? Let us know in the comments section. 

P.S – who is looking forward to part 2 of the wedding series? 

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Wedding series: The planning (Part 1) 

I’ve heard people speak about the rigors that come with planning a wedding and I had always thought it was all exaggerated and stuff, I mean come on, it’s a wedding, it’s most likely like planning a party, right, right? Wrong! My turn came and I quickly realized “no be child’s play o.”

Welcome to “THE WEDDING SERIES” I hope to capture everything about my wedding (as much as I can), The opinions shared here are completely mine and do not in any way form the rule or only possible modus operandi. LOL…just thought to put out that disclaimer.

Yes so where were we? Oh yes…I’ll try to capture it all, however feel free to comment and message me if need be and I’ll be happy to assist in whatever way I can.

GOD

All things begin with God and His importance cannot be overemphasized. My goodness, when things start to go left, you start to get depressed, the worry kicks in, the arguing, unsolicited opinions, family input. BOY O BOY, it was not easy, funny I heard about all this but I was so certain we would be the exception LOL. I WISHED! We had to fast and pray regularly. Again, no rules, do what works for you, but GOD came through for me. We are not the best, most loved couple out there, but the favors were coming in and I owe it to GOD!

THE ONLINE SPREADSHEET

The first thing I did was open an Excel spreadsheet online that my fiancé, scratch that husband, and I could access and edit as required. You can do that using the Drive app on iOS.

https://www.google.com/drive/

The sheet had a list of all items needed for the wedding (traditional and white), from the minutest detail like toothpicks to the important ones like décor and food.

One fantastic thing about the app is that you and your partner can edit real time and put in figures as you get them. The main reason why we used this app was to have an estimate of how much we intend to spend and prioritize.

We divided our sheet into four categories, each representing one month and what should be sorted that month. (We started the planning 4 months before the wedding). This way, we didn’t leave things to the last minute. We focused on the items for the month and did our best to close them out before the month was done.

Oh boy! Weddings are expensive! Listing the expenses and getting a total would make you realize you need to reevaluate, cut out some things and adjust your cost! You might wonder, does this mean we can’t budget till we have the total costs? No. It’s safe to have your planned budget but be open to the possibility that you might (most likely) have to shoot beyond it as you go. This is why early planning is very important – to create time for unforeseen or unplanned expenses.

We had to assign roles on the items – who’s taking care of each item on the sheet. We shared with family as well, that way, we could keep track of progress.

 

PRIORITIZE

We can’t always have what we want. Well some people can but yeah a higher percentage probably can’t. I fall under that percentage. As a result, we had to sit down, look through our list and develop a strategy that works. (You don’t have to use this strategy, whatever works for you)

We both picked two things we were willing to break the bank for, the others we were ready to compromise. I was particular about my dress and decoration. We agreed that these would be financial priority and based on the cost, other items on our list would have to take a back seat. It worked for us and I didn’t feel bad about the other compromise.

WEDDING PLANNER.

LOL! Trying not to throw shade of any sort, but if you wanna get a planner, please get a very good planner. I did most of my stuff myself and it was a bit frustrating because i had a planner. I was calling vendors myself and negotiating myself. Some planners will get you vendors with ridiculous budget, others will get you vendors with wack quality. I took matters into my own hands because i knew what I was willing to spend and what quality I wanted for it, anything that deviates from that I gotta handle it myself.

The key here is to realize that no one knows how you want your wedding to turn out but you. You can brief the best planners, but they’ll only give you what they consider good enough. This isn’t even a function of cost but taste. You’re going to have to get your hands dirty if you want what you want. Some prices might be ridiculous, don’t be scared of doing research and reaching out to vendors yourself. Remember, it’s your big day, you should have what you want.

VENDORS

You don’t want to be stuck with terrible vendors. Please don’t be deceived by some Instagram vendors. (of course, not all are wack) but yeah. Do your proper research. You don’t want a stuck up vendor, vendors that think they are doing you a favor. I developed some sort of relationship/friendship with all my vendors, so it was just not a service/product they are offering, it was deeper, that way it is harder for them to fuck you up. lol.

DO IT YOURSELF

Not everything buy on instagram. Get to work, enter market, get your friends and loved ones to assist you. You will be amazed how much you will save.

DELEGATE

You can’t be in charge of everything, you need to delegate before you run mad. My chief bridesmaid was in charge of the bridal party, their make up, hair accessories and styling, earrings, dresses. I was not involved in this at all. My mum took over souvenirs of course she ran it through me. I REPEAT, YOU CAN NOT DO IT ALL.

THE WEDDING DRESS

Next thing I did was try to sort my wedding dress because I wanted it done as early as possible to avoid stories that touch. I reached out to two vendors and eventually went with Mai Atafo. The meeting was very brief because I knew exactly what I wanted; A ball gown with sequin lace. We eventually concluded on An Ivory ball gown with hand beaded bodice, sequin Chantilly lace and lace border Applique around the bottom.

Mai is undoubtedly one of the best designers out there. My first fitting was pretty much perfect.


Different churches have different policies. My church requested a picture of me in the dress and the dress was initially rejected because the lace was a bit too see-through.  LOL I wanted to die when i got the mail. It worked out fine at the end of the day.

Final result here.


BRIDAL PARTY

It is called MAID OF HONOR/BRIDESMAID for a reason. They are just not there to look pretty and take selfies. It is more than that. I feel like asking a friend to be a bridesmaid should come with a manual because a lot of people really don’t get it. I chose the best MAID OF HONOR and i can’t imagine what i would have done without her. My bridesmaids were also amazing and so helpful. Pick/Choose your bridesmaids wisely. Pick people that love you, that are selfless and ready to make your day as perfect as it can be, you will need all the help. Overall, some people are not cut out for all the bridesmaid wahala and its ok, but MAID is there for a reason, so yeah, take a minute to think about your decision.



This post would’ve been ridiculously long so we had to divide it into two parts. So, watch out for the second part next week.

I hope you enjoyed reading this. More exciting details to come!!

Let us know what you think in the comment section. For those that are married, feel free to also share your experience! We’d love to read them!

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Diary of a stressed house officer| 5 coping tips. 

Hey guys! How’s it going?

I’m currently in Lagos for just two days. 😦 I wish I could stay longer but i have to go back to work on Monday, yes I’m aware it’s a public holiday but when you’re a Doctor, public holiday is nothing exciting. It’s just another day. Especially if you’re on call, it’s pretty much like a weekend call. 

Anyway, im home and wide awake so I decided to type this post. 


Let’s get right in, shall we?

1. Prepare your mind for the worst. 

I don’t mean to scare you but it works well for me. I prepare my mind for the worst and  nothing can really surprise me anymore. Just know it’s going to be one long year and once you’ve accepted the fact that you’re in for struggle, you’ll be fine.

2. Eat. 

I really have no shame for confidently writing this because I have a terrible eating habit. I go from not eating to binge eating and the cycle goes on and on. It’s very easy to be overwhelmed with work and forget to eat. Yes, I didn’t think it was possible to forget to eat either until I started housejob. Have snacks in your bag. Work can go from zero to one hundred real quick and before you know what’s happening, it’s 8pm and you’ve not had a proper meal all day. 

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Be nice but not too nice. 

I know it’s like I’m contradicting myself but I started house job with the ‘I’m going to be nice to everyone’ mentality and it didn’t take long for me to be like ‘uh fuck it’. Nigerians don’t like nice people. Nigerians respect you when you’re mean and you yell. Sadly. I mean, I’m not saying disrespect anybody but don’t let people walk all over you especially the nurses because they tend to think they know better and they always want you to do what they want you to do but if you really know what you’re doing, they can’t bullshit you into doing anything. Bottom line is know what you’re doing and stand your ground. Respectfully tell them to do their work and do yours. Nurses can be your best friend and your worst nightmare. 

4. 

Don’t forget to read. I can count how many times I’ve opened my book to read. You’ll learn everyday and it gets overwhelming sometimes but get a small notebook and write down things you see/hear/learn so you can find time to go over them. I can’t promise you that you’ll find time. From being on call and not sleeping to doing 5hour ward round to being yelled at. Honestly, all I think about is sleep. I can’t come and die. Housejob kinda makes you better at clinical skills than theory because who has time to read honestly? 

5. 

Rest. Rest. Rest.

I know this might sound like a foreign term to you but you gotta find time to rest. Even if you have to ’tissue’ to sleep. Do what you gotta do smartly. Except you’re ready to overwork yourself and burn out/collapse. I’ve heard stories from people i know and random people of how doctors faint at work from exhaustion. How sad is that? I have friends that have collapsed at work. It’s really not that deep. Do your work but try to rest. If you’re known to do your work well, no one can fault you for taking some time off to rest. I know it’s hard for some people *coughs*. I’m a workaholic and I barely rested these past few months but hey, even if I can’t take my own advice i can help someone out there! 
I hope you enjoyed reading this post. 

Want more tips? 

Drop a comment!

– TOSIN 

Dating in Lagos

Hey guys.
I didn’t want to share this but I figured someone out there may or may not have experienced something similar and just want that someone to know that they are not gullible or stupid. I also want to share some lessons I learnt from it all and who knows? Someone might learn a thing or two.
I’m not saying you should have trust issues o but keep reading.
So I decided to go into this dating thing. I’m not much of a ‘dater’ tbh. I like being alone. Being jobless for a while made it even worse. I just hate the stress of meeting people, liking them and being disappointed. Don’t get it twisted, I like the going out part sometimes, having someone new to laugh with, go out with, try new things with other than your family and friends.
So, I decided to sort of date two people because I kind of met them at the same time. Let me just call them A and B. I wanted to give y’all the full gist because frankly I don’t care if they read this but It’s a long story so I’ll just summarize it and save y’all the stress.
Now, I don’t know about you girls but after a while, I can’t keep up with two guys so I obviously had to narrow it down to one eventually.
A was not my type physically but I decided to look beyond that. Clearly, I didn’t look too far because apparently he had a girlfriend of four years and lied about it. Four bruh.
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How did you miss this? You might be asking. Frankly, I don’t even know. I guess when someone is constantly messaging and calling, you just sort of assume he does not have a girlfriend especially after he tells you  he’s single. Ya know? Before I found out,  I told him I don’t think anything will happen here tbh. Ko le werk.
Did i mention that when i told him i dont think we are compatible, he blocked me on whatsapp and unfollowed me on twitter and I was like

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While gisting with my friend after the blocking drama, she told me he has a girlfriend. What a freaking wawu. I know.

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Lesson learnt from that experience is to talk to friends that might know the person you’re dating. Don’t say he’s just a guy I met, why investigate so much. Girl, Ask lots of questions.. not only to the guy you’re dating because they tend to lie about having girlfriends, but to people that know him. I personally don’t like to put my private life out there but clearly in Lagos you have to investigate everything because married men are out here trying to date single girls. ASK MY SISTERS. Lagos is small, someone will know someone that knows him. LOL.
B that I decided to focus on turned out to be a liar. LOL. I literally thought it was jazz.

Like bruh how does one lie about what they’re doing in life? It had me confused. Like I had to ask how he planned to keep up with the lie forever.
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For obvious/other reasons, I had to drop him too. * Boy, bye*- In Beyonce’s voice.
Lesson learnt: Forgive yeah but move the hell on. If a nigga can lie about what he does regardless of the reason, keep it moving. You don’t need that kind of person around sis. Also, as I said earlier, ask lots of questions. Don’t assume shit. People lie about everything and don’t ever underestimate a guy’s ability to make you feel guilty for his mistakes.
There is no way to know if a guy is a liar by just looking at him. I wish there was some sort of technology for that. So you just gotta keep your eyes open, ask questions, talk to your friends (they might know someone that knows him) and don’t be naïve and too quick to think you’ve found the one so you won’t get disappointed. I’m sure there are lots of good guys so this is not in any way a ‘ALL GUYS ARE LIARS’ post.

I hope someone reading learnt a thing or two from this post.
What kind of person would I be if I did not share some tips with my sisters. 😉

XOXO
Tosin

Bay Lounge| Review

Not too long ago, I stopped by at bay lounge with a friend. this was my second time going there.
I absolutely love the place. The best time to go is right before the sun sets. Gosh. that view is what you’re paying for tbh and no regrets.

the music is good. sometimes they have live bands (like the first time I went there).

The waiters are really nice (even if its because of tip, still remarkable).

I’ve not tried their food. The first time I went, I got long island, the second time I got pina colada.
the cocktails are 2k (not bad). Of course there are some expensive drinks on the menu but hay, my eyes went to what I could afford.

Here are some pictures I took with my friends phone (Samsung s7)…. I need this phone in my life! I should’ve put it on my wish list.

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if you’re looking for a place that’s not so crowded to get drinks with your friends or partner with a view that’s to die for, in Lagos? Then I’d definitely recommend Bay lounge.
They might have slight problems now that’s its rainy season sha but it reminded me so much of the Caribbean and I loved it.

What your favorite place to get drinks with your friends in Lagos?

– TOSIN

Life | Update

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Hey y’all! How are y’all doing?

I’ve got some good news. Sort of. *DRUM ROLLS* I have a job somebody shout Hallelujah!!!! One slight problem though; I don’t get to start till like June/July. I was hoping to start as soon as possible but I’m not complaining or anything. I’m super grateful. However, I’m not putting my eggs in one basket. I already applied to another hospital in Lagos months ago and they finally scheduled the exam/interview which I did on Saturday. I know right? Why would they do that to us. Saturday! So hopefully that goes well because if it does, I might get to start immediately.

A lot of people have advised me to go out of Lagos and apply which I did but nothing forthcoming so far. I don’t see the point travelling (flight/road)to far places in Nigeria for a job when I know damn well, knowing at least one person there is vital. I love my life too much to start entering bus anywhere outside Lagos. Speaking of life. God saved my life last week Friday, I went to deliver food for my mom (She’s a badass cook!). I will talk about that in another post so stay tuned.

On the way back, the front tyre tore while getting off the bridge. Oh boy! It was dramatic. We thank God sha. The driver was able to stay calm and move us to the side of the road. He changed the tyre and we were on our way. Now minutes before this, he said he noticed the tyre on the other side is flat so we stopped and pumped the two on the other side. Little did we know!

I know God kept me. God’s mercy kept me. I’m not better than anyone that died that day but I believe God has a plan for my life and honestly I fully trust him with my life. Sometimes things happen and you just look up and say ‘Thank you God, I know that was you!’

Some things we are looking forward to;

We plan to have some photo shoots soon. Titi and I. Hopefully, we get time and make this happen. So stay tuned for that.

To start a series on my house job experience when I start working. That should be fun!!

A lot more to come but I can’t start saying everything now. 😛


I hope you have a lovely week! Don’t forget to thank God and pray everyday!

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What has been going on in your life?


P.S – Titi has a minor eye surgery today! Pray for her guys! 🙂

XOXO

TOSIN

The Lagos Home Show/ Foodie in Lagos Fair

Hey guys! We told y’all we were going to be at the Lagos home show. Well guess what? We were there.

We got there pretty late tho. It started around 12 noon and was supposed to end at 7pm. We got there almost 5pm. Getting a place to park was a struggle. I guess that means it was a success?

I was more excited about the food part tbh but because we were late and I wasn’t like fully impressed with what I was seeing, I decided to get zobo first which was N300. The girl at that stand was quite nice too. Shout out to you. Whoever you are!

I actually thought id buy at least one item but honestly, the prices were not exactly friendly considering I’m jobless atm (This might change very soon! Yay!). The little money I have, I’m not sure I want to spend it on household stuff. There were a lot of cute items tho. I wish I had money or a new house to decorate.

Here are some pictures. I already shared some on our twitter/instagram page (@lifewithtwotees) and will be sharing more so follow us jor.

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I look like I was really admiring Titi in this picture. :/

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The zobo was bae!

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E (friend) got small chops and it wasn’t so great apparently. The chicken was too salty. The guy selling was really nice tho. I had HOTR small chops earlier in the day so I already satisfied my small chops craving.

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The venue was really nice. The view was great. It was a good show altogether.

We’d probably look into selling some assessories at the next show.

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We hope you have a lovely weekend.

  • TOSIN / TITI