First of all, I wanna say thank you to everyone that read the first part and left comments! So glad you enjoyed it and found it helpful.
If you’ve been carrying last and haven’t read the first part, you can read it Here.
Now let’s wrap this up shall we?
People will complain of not eating, People will complain of drinks, and guess what? Everybody will be fine last last. I didn’t kill myself over this. I did my best and left the rest for GOD. One key thing to note though: Always prepare for uninvited guests.
We made access cards for the younger crowd and invitations for our parents guests. I think it’s cute and obviously cost efficient. This rather than making invitation cards for everyone. We also sent out E-invites to some friends who we couldn’t get the physical access cards to, and this worked as well. Every little cost that can be avoided counts.
If you have a theme, perfect. I didn’t, I wanted a lot of flowers, I wanted chandeliers. I wanted candles. I am sure my decorator was wondering what type of bride is this. I was pretty vague. Decorations was one of the expensive things on our list, but deservedly so. It came out amazing. Decorator – STYLISTA
People generally say “dress the way you want to be addressed” These days, your dressing is not even complete if you actually don’t look the part facially.
What’s a beautiful dress if I looked plain and boring? A plain and boring girl in a beautiful dress. You’re right! I went through a million pictures and pages before concluding on my make up vendor. You must be able to spot the experts who are good at just traditional style makeup, those who are really good with ‘white makeup’ and those who can actually do both. Finding someone good with both isn’t the easiest but hey i did it. “Beautybyqueen” was pretty dope for me. I must say I was also particular about using a make up artist with no attitude, because I’m not about that life, so yeah, luckily i didn’t have to deal with that.
Other factors to consider when sealing the makeup deal are, who does the maid of honor or mother’s makeup? Is it complementary? is she gonna have to retouch or nah? I wanted the total package lol. You don’t want to go wrong with your makeup. Although we started late and i probably didn’t need the touch up but it was too late to cancel and i didn’t even remember that. BeautybyQueen slayed my face, what?? just take a look
While planning and considering our budget, we were not going to have an entire paparazzi team of photographers (because of cost). But during discussions, we realized it works better having at least two guys manning the lenses. One man can’t do the job, well, he can, but it’s not effective especially if you want to get those early morning shots of the bride preparing and the groom preparing. How will it happen if they aren’t at the same hotel? You surely don’t want your photographer shuttling and fagged out before the event starts.
Oh i forgot pre wedding shoot. Best you strike a deal for introduction, traditional, white and prewedding. It is more efficient negotiating a total package. I didn’t take time concluding on this mostly because my photographer was kinda like a friend already and i was comfortable with his work. Seyi can be extra with his shoot tho, *one more pose* *can you put your hands on his stomach* *can you giive me that queen pose* *can you give me that killer smile* at some point i started getting cranky like *leave me alone, i am tired AH*. My maid of honor whispered *you better suck it up and pose, you need all this pictures o* I am glad they pushed me. You need to capture as much as you can, now i just go through the album with the biigest smile. He did an awesome job and went over and beyond to even share with his social media network and connects. So so grateful.
PHOTOGRAPHER – SEYITURBOSTUDIOS (IG)
My baby can die for fruit cake (such a weirdo, I know) so i knew the wedding cake had to be mad. Major issue was looking for the design. I wanted something simple and cute. Eventually concluded on the below
We had to cut and wrap pieces and dropped it on the table. My mum made it a necessity, i wonder why guests need to taste your wedding cake.
Random:, i love how there’s so much wedding cake left over in the fridge for the times you feel like. Though I’m not sure its gonna last with the rate my husband goes to get ‘a slice.’
For desserts, i used a different vendor, it was a mixture of ice cream and cake. i just wanted to make sure no vendor is overwhelmed.
These niggas can make or mar your wedding. I absolutely loved the DJ, i couldnt relate much to the band but people that could, said they were pretty dope too. The band were a highlife group from Asaba. So it was mostly native songs they played.
The music generally was on point. Zero glitches, from the dancing in to daughter/father and son/mother dance. The DJ was on his ‘A’ game and made the after party super lit. I totally recommend him. Everybody was turnt.. EVERYBODY!!!!!
Might I add that if you’re going to have both a DJ and a band, ensure you have a meeting with both (alongside your MC) to ensure harmony between them.
Considering the fact my husband is an MC (please note o!) And into compering events and hosting, he was pretty particular about who handles the day. if he could, he’d have done it himself i’m sure. We definitely didn’t want the comedians as they often make it all about themselves (with the couple as an afterthought). He wanted someone who would keep it professional yet fun and also stick to the agreed programme. We had had a meeting earlier to discuss how the flow should be and other important things. Eventually, we got our man, pretty good at the job. Good looking too haha. He’s also friends and birthday mates with my husband. At least since he couldn’t do it, he got someone born on the same day to do it.
MC @Nnamdiak did a great job.
I think second dress is extremely necessary especially if your wedding dress is gonna be similar to mine, or if you’re having an after party. As much as i loved my wedding dress, turning up in it was clearly not going to be fun. Another alternative is making a 2 in 1 wedding dress that can easily be switched up into something more comfortable.
I used a black dress- black? I know right?! can you imagine that? I was initially skeptical but it was perfect. Love love love it.
Quite a post right? yeah lets wrap it up. If you can and considering your venue and safety of your guests and their property, try to at least get the services of some proper security team. Most venues have ‘gatemen’ not ‘guards’ and these probably liaise with and are familiar with the area touts, so get those hefty looking guys in uniform to man your security .
The After party is like a different ceremony, don’t underestimate this. Gotta twerk without parents giving you side eye and all that shit. Stock up on drinks as much as you can. Talking of drinks, it’s never a bad idea to buy cartons and store way ahead (cos prices go up) and my husband had very very supportive friends who pledged cartons of spirits which were used for the after party. Best guys tbh. (He’ll want me to S/O Victor, Seyi, Tunji, Terdoo, Ahbu, Yemi, Olisa) and all the mandem that came through. Thank you
Grateful to all my amazing friends and family. Best support system a girl can ask for. I LOVED MY WEDDING!!! IT WAS PERFECT!!!
Have a lovely weekend!