The wedding series- Part 2. 

Hey guys!

First of all, I wanna say thank you to everyone that read the first part and left comments! So glad you enjoyed it and found it helpful.

If you’ve been carrying last and haven’t read the first part, you can read it Here.

Now let’s wrap this up shall we?

FOOD
People will complain of not eating, People will complain of drinks, and guess what? Everybody will be fine last last. I didn’t kill myself over this. I did my best and left the rest for GOD. One key thing to note though: Always prepare for uninvited guests.

IV/ACESS CARD
We made access cards for the younger crowd and invitations for our parents guests. I think it’s cute and obviously cost efficient. This rather than making invitation cards for everyone. We also sent out E-invites to some friends who we couldn’t get the physical access cards to, and this worked as well. Every little cost that can be avoided counts.

DECORATION
If you have a theme, perfect. I didn’t, I wanted a lot of flowers, I wanted chandeliers. I wanted candles. I am sure my decorator was wondering what type of bride is this. I was pretty vague. Decorations was one of the expensive things on our list, but deservedly so. It came out amazing. Decorator – STYLISTA

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 MAKE UP

People generally say “dress the way you want to be addressed” These days, your dressing is not even complete if you actually don’t look the part facially.
What’s a beautiful dress if I looked plain and boring? A plain and boring girl in a beautiful dress. You’re right! I went through a million pictures and pages before concluding on my make up vendor. You must be able to spot the experts who are good at just traditional style makeup, those who are really good with ‘white makeup’ and those who can actually do both. Finding someone good with both isn’t the easiest but hey i did it. “Beautybyqueen” was pretty dope for me. I must say I was also particular about using a make up artist with no attitude, because I’m not about that life, so yeah, luckily i didn’t have to deal with that.

Other factors to consider when sealing the makeup deal are, who does the maid of honor or mother’s makeup? Is it complementary? is she gonna have to retouch or nah? I wanted the total package lol. You don’t want to go wrong with your makeup. Although we started late and i probably didn’t need the touch up but it was too late to cancel and i didn’t even remember that. BeautybyQueen slayed my face, what?? just take a look

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PHOTOGRAPHER

While planning and considering our budget, we were not going to have an entire paparazzi team of photographers (because of cost). But during discussions, we realized it works better having at least two guys manning the lenses. One man can’t do the job, well, he can, but it’s not effective especially if you want to get those early morning shots of the bride preparing and the groom preparing. How will it happen if they aren’t at the same hotel? You surely don’t want your photographer shuttling and fagged out before the event starts.

Oh i forgot pre wedding shoot. Best you strike a deal for introduction, traditional, white and prewedding. It is more efficient negotiating a total package. I didn’t take time concluding on this mostly because my photographer was kinda like a friend already and i was comfortable with his work. Seyi can be extra with his shoot tho, *one more pose* *can you put your hands on his stomach* *can you giive me that queen pose* *can you give me that killer smile* at some point i started getting cranky like *leave me alone, i am tired AH*. My maid of honor whispered *you better suck it up and pose, you need all this pictures o* I am glad they pushed me. You need to capture as much as you can, now i just go through the album with the biigest smile. He did an awesome job and went over and beyond to even share with his social media network and connects. So so grateful.

PHOTOGRAPHER – SEYITURBOSTUDIOS (IG)

CAKE

My baby can die for fruit cake (such a weirdo, I know) so i knew the wedding cake had to be mad. Major issue was looking for the design. I wanted something simple and cute. Eventually concluded on the below

We had to cut and wrap pieces and dropped it on the table. My mum made it a necessity, i wonder why guests need to taste your wedding cake.
Random:, i love how there’s so much wedding cake left over in the fridge for the times you feel like. Though I’m not sure its gonna last with the rate my husband goes to get ‘a slice.’
For desserts, i used a different vendor, it was a mixture of ice cream and cake. i just wanted to make sure no vendor is overwhelmed.


DJ/BAND

These niggas can make or mar your wedding. I absolutely loved the DJ, i couldnt relate much to the band but people that could, said they were pretty dope too. The band were a highlife group from Asaba. So it was mostly native songs they played.

The music generally was on point. Zero glitches, from the dancing in to daughter/father and son/mother dance. The DJ was on his ‘A’ game and made the after party super lit. I totally recommend him. Everybody was turnt.. EVERYBODY!!!!!

Might I add that if you’re going to have both a DJ and a band, ensure you have a meeting with both (alongside your MC) to ensure harmony between them.

DJ – DJGUNZEE

MC

Considering the fact my husband is an MC (please note o!) And into compering events and hosting, he was pretty particular about who handles the day. if he could, he’d have done it himself i’m sure. We definitely didn’t want the comedians as they often make it all about themselves (with the couple as an afterthought). He wanted someone who would keep it professional yet fun and also stick to the agreed programme. We had had a meeting earlier to discuss how the flow should be and other important things. Eventually, we got our man, pretty good at the job. Good looking too haha. He’s also friends and birthday mates with my husband. At least since he couldn’t do it, he got someone born on the same day to do it.

MC @Nnamdiak did a great job.

SECOND DRESS?

I think second dress is extremely necessary especially if your wedding dress is gonna be similar to mine, or if you’re having an after party. As much as i loved my wedding dress, turning up in it was clearly not going to be fun. Another alternative is making a 2 in 1 wedding dress that can easily be switched up into something more comfortable.
I used a black dress- black? I know right?! can you imagine that? I was initially skeptical but it was perfect. Love love love it.

OTHERS

Quite a post right? yeah lets wrap it up. If you can and considering your venue and safety of your guests and their property, try to at least get the services of some proper security team. Most venues have ‘gatemen’ not ‘guards’ and these probably liaise with and are familiar with the area touts, so get those hefty looking guys in uniform to man your security .
The After party is like a different ceremony, don’t underestimate this. Gotta twerk without parents giving you side eye and all that shit. Stock up on drinks as much as you can. Talking of drinks, it’s never a bad idea to buy cartons and store way ahead (cos prices go up) and my husband had very very supportive friends who pledged cartons of spirits which were used for the after party. Best guys tbh. (He’ll want me to S/O Victor, Seyi, Tunji, Terdoo, Ahbu, Yemi, Olisa) and all the mandem that came through. Thank you
Grateful to all my amazing friends and family. Best support system a girl can ask for. I LOVED MY WEDDING!!! IT WAS PERFECT!!!


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Have a lovely weekend!

TITI 

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Two months….

You guys! I have two months left and i’m done with house job. I’m so excited!!! I’m officially starting a countdown. I can’t wait.

It feels like i started just yesterday. It really went by quickly. I remember feeling some type of way about moving to Ibadan. I remember the orientation process and my first day as a Doctor. It was overwhelming. How naive and clueless i was! It was ridiculous.

I have learnt and grown so much. I have met some cool people. I have worked with some stressful people and commended myself on how much I’ve grown by just being able to deal with them.

I started my internship with Obstetrics and Gynaecology, then moved to paediatrics and then Surgery. I’ve completed the first month in Medicine. .

I remember finding out I was posted to GIT/Liver unit and I was sad and happy at the same time. Sad because the unit is mad stressful in this hospital and happy because I actually don’t mind GIT. It was my favorite system back in Med school. I even did an elective rotation in GIT. That’s how much I loved it. 

The first month was a bit stressful as I was getting used to the unit. People weren’t exactly doing their work so it made everyone tense. I don’t mind the unit now though. I know what’s expected of me and what I need to do. 

Personally, I’ve been feeling somehow. Not sure if I can call it depression because that’s pretty big but I just don’t know if this is what I want to do with my life. I’m not sure being a Doctor makes me happy. A lot of people have said it’s probably because I’m in Nigeria and everything here is stress but deep down I feel like I’ll be miserable if I end up doing this forever. I’ve spoken to a few people about it and everyone is basically like you’ve got your whole life ahead. Ultimately, you gotta do what makes you happy. I mean, I love helping people feel better. It’s really overwhelming when you see someone come into the hospital really bad – almost dead ‘bad’ and they eventually leave conscious and well. It’s really amazing and the feeling that you played a role in making that happen is not something I can even discuss. Tew much! But I still wake up and feel sad. Almost like this is not what I should be doing with my life. Hopefully , i figure it out soon. Pray for me guys! 

On to happier news, I met my cute ass nephew last week. 😍  I’m looking forward to finishing housejob and starting NYSC much later in the year. I also look forward to next month as I’ll be welcoming my second nephew to the world. Super exciting. Titi is getting married in August so that’s super lit. Such a blessed year for my family tbh. 

What kind of post would this be if I don’t share pictures from the past few months? 
For more pictures follow lifewithtwotees and napphotog on instagram. 

Life! Oh wait…..

How’s it going guys?

  • I’m currently typing this in my room and i’m on call.
  • My call has been okay. So far, so good.
  • I am half way done with my surgery posting!
  • I am almost done with housejob y’all! Isn’t that crazy?
  • I can now sort of say i’m in a long distance relationship. LOL. Hate it.
  • Well, technically it’s not that long.
  • I finally got a room to myself in the hospital.
  • It’s such a purple room. I love it.
  • I almost forgot…. I’m 26 years old now. OMG. I’m old.
  • I had a weird birthday.
  • I was kinda depressed because i put too much pressure on myself and i felt like i’m not where i want to be in life.
  • I felt so much better the day after though. I realised how blessed I am and for that I was really grateful. I mean, I have the best family.. super supportive and shit… I have the best boyfriend. Super kind and amazing tbh.
  • I wish i wasn’t on call today. I would’ve been watching a movie with bae.
  • He went without me. Imagine that?!
  • March is almost over… Where is the year flying to. Not complaining tho.
  • Hope you guys are having a great month so far.
  • I will blog about my plastic surgery posting soon.
  • I am tired of seeing wounds. It’s disgusting tbvh.

October

So, October is pretty much over and I’m just here asking myself where it went. Not complaining tho. I’m officially done with obstetrics and gynecology. 3 months of house job gone, 9 months to go!!! Whoop! I’m starting Paediatrics on Monday and from what I’ve heard, it’s terrible. I’m trying hard not to make that cloud my experience. A wise man once said ‘ Just because it did not go well for someone else does not mean it’ll be the same for you. You’re different.’

Of course the wise man is my father and of course he’ll always tell me I’m special but still I’m going to say those words to myself everyday if I have to. 

The roster is out for my first month in paediatrics and I’m already sort of depressed. I’m on call 14 times next month (pretty much alternate day calls). The only not so depressing thing about the roster is that I’m starting with pulmonology and I heard it’s one of the best units to be in. So yay! 
I already posted a tweet about my next blog post being a bit personal. 

So do y’all remember my last post about guys in general months ago (Read it here). Where I sort of gave up on humans.

Now, as you all know, my plan was to just do this one year housemanship thing and move on with my life. I had zero interests in finding or dating anyone. Little did I know that I was just saying my own. 

I met the most amazing person two months ago. I’m sure he’ll read this and be feeling himself but it’s all good. 

I remember clearly what happened the day I met him. I was on call the day before and I was cranky as hell. I walked into my ward that Saturday morning because I got a message about the unit doctors meeting up for post op round. I was already up all night and was really upset. My damn period started the night before and of course I had dysmenorrhoea and the nurses had to give me some analgesics. Anyway, so as I walked in, I see this guy sitting and writing something. I’ve never seen his face before but I knew some house officers just started ObGyn. So I asked him if he was the one on call and he said yes. Then I went ahead to complain about the fact that I was on call the night before and also the fact that I  got there before everyone else. I’m sure he was like I don’t even know you ma. ‘ Woz all dis story?’ I remember asking what school he finished from and just trying to talk while I waited for the rest of the unit doctors to arrive. 

We did our post op round and left. Obviously I went home (outside the hospital). Only for my Senior Registrar to call me and request for the two patients’ PCVs. I was like this is just fantastic. I had zero plans of going back to the hospital so I went to the house officers WhatsApp page to dig out this guy’s number since he’s on call on my ward, he can help abi?

I sent a WhatsApp message but it was just a tick for the longest time so I decided to text him. I don’t know why I didn’t just call him. Sent a text begging him to help me do it and get the results to me. He didn’t respond so I was like great!

My SR kept calling later for the results and I was forming ‘ it’s not out yet’ secretly hoping this guy had done it. 

Few minutes past 5 or 6, I get a text from him about the results and I was like ah Thank you. That was it. The conversation ended there. Was that even a conversation?
Somehow, we ended up talking on WhatsApp and the rest is history. Now, I was a bit worried about the fact that we are kind of different but then again I think being different from someone gives you a chance to learn from the person.

Long story short, I am glad we did that post op round. 😊😊😊

OMG GUYS! Two more months and the year is over. Isn’t that insane?

Wish me luck in paediatrics guys! I’ll need all the luck I can get tbh.

How was the month October for you and what plans do you have for the new month?