Here Comes The Sun – Review

BOOK – Here Comes The Sun

AUTHOR – Nicole Dennis-Benn

PAGES – 345

PUBLISHED IN 2017 by One world publications

ISBN 978-1-78607-239-9

Blurb

Capturing the distinct rhythms of Jamaican life and dialect, Nicole Dennis-Benn pens a tender hymn to a world hidden among pristine beaches and the wide expanse of turquoise seas. At an opulent resort in Montego Bay, Margot hustles to send her younger sister, Thandi, to school. Taught as a girl to trade her sexuality for survival, Margot is ruthlessly determined to shield Thandi from the same fate. When plans for a new hotel threaten their village, Margot sees not only an opportunity for her own financial independence but also perhaps a chance to admit a shocking secret: her forbidden love for another woman. As they face the impending destruction of their community, each woman fighting to balance the burdens she shoulders with the freedom she craves must confront long-hidden scars. From a much-heralded new writer, Here Comes the Sun offers a dramatic glimpse into a vibrant, passionate world most outsiders see simply as paradise.

First of all, I’d like to put it out there that I read a signed copy! I brag different.

The first thing that attracts you to this book ( if you’re like me) is the cover.

Bright, sunny and beautiful just like the Jamaica we foreigners know. The one we visit expecting to sip cocktails with occasional shots of rum on a beach half naked in Montego Bay. Well, sorry to break it to you but this is not the Jamaica you read about in this book and I really love that it isn’t. Every now and then we need a dose of reality. This story is told from a local’s POV. So you get to see the not so shiny and attractive aspects of Jamaica.

This book is centred around three women. Delores and her two daughters Margot and Thandi. Margot grew up hustling, doing whatever she could to survive because her mother,Delores pushed her into the world at the age of 14 without caring if she was ready or not.

As expected that put a huge strain on their relationship. Margot was willing to sell her body to make sure her sister, Thandi never have to go through what she did. Thandi would seem like the lucky one in this story, having a sister that would literally do anything to make sure you have a good life, a mother that was willing to do the same. She grew up always being reminded that everyone is sacrificing everything for her. Whew chile! The pressure.

The story gets a little complicated as you progress and it unfolds slowly but beautifully. It explores heavy themes – Homophobia, prostitution, sexuality, colorism, racism, survival, trauma and its long lasting effects.

Here Comes The Sun is as raw and authentic as it gets. Nicole unapologetically wrote some parts in patois which I particularly enjoyed. It made the book even more memorable for me.

The book is like a roller coaster of some sort. It starts off really slow paced, you almost want to ditch it (Don’t make that mistake), then it gets so good, you literally cannot drop it and you find yourself reading it everywhere and then before you know it, it’s over!

You know a writer is good when you start to come up with reasons why the most horrible character is the way they are. When you start to justify the silly things a character does. Nicole made me feel things with this book and I’m thankful for that because at least I know I am still capable of feeling things.

I initially gave this book 5 stars but changed it to 4.5 stars because the ending was unnecessarily abrupt. My heart did not need all that, Nicole.


Have you read this book? Did you enjoy it?

Also, Let me know if you’d like to see more book reviews on the blog!

TOSIN

Life lately.

Hey guys! How’s it going?

I haven’t written a personal post in a minute and I haven’t been so active on Instagram so I thought I should share what I’m currently up to.

So I’m currently…

Accepting that sometimes things are not okay or going to go well and that’s life. It’s not necessarily about me or what I’m doing right or wrong.

Reading two books atm. If Beale street could talk by James Baldwin and When the crawfords sing by Delia Owens and funny enough I see some similarities. Loving both so far! I have three paperbacks and two ebooks on my TBR list this month.

Loving my new job. I’ve learnt so much in a such a short time. It’s actually quite amazing. I also love that it’s flexible and I get to sleep at home every night. #Winning.

Practicing this self love thing. I read about it and I’m always reposting things about self love on my instagram story but I have been trying to actually go beyond just reading about it. When life gets overwhelming, I am practicing self love and taking care of my mental health.

Feeling stressed but blessed. I’ve had a rough first quarter of the year and to be able to say I’m feeling blessed is a blessing on its own.

Trying to be more patient with people I love. Trying to see things from their perspective sometimes and not react based on my expectations.

Learning to save for the rainy days. Y’all I don’t know how to save and it’s mad stressful. I usually blame it on unplanned expenses but It’s really just an excuse.

Interested in volunteering. I mentioned this thing last year but somehow never got around to it. Please I need an organization that needs volunteers. It’ll be nice if it’s easy to join as well. Know any? Please share! I’m actually begging guys.

Hoping to get all the schmonayyy I need for all the numerous exams and plans I have before the end on the year. Pray for me guys!

I know this list can go on and we’ll be here till tomorrow so let me stop here so you can get back to your life.

Thanks for reading. Feel free to share what you’re currently doing in the comments section.

• TOSIN

Women’s day | Celebrating 10 inspiring women.

Hey lovely people! Happy International Women’s Day to all our female readers. We see you, we appreciate you and we love you!

To celebrate the day, we decided to share and talk about women that inspire us. We had to stick to 10 or else we’ll be here all day.

In no particular order,

  1. Serena Williams. I don’t need to list all her achievements because if you don’t know her then i can’t really help your situation. Serena is a strong and beautiful mama! On and out of the tennis court, she’s a queen! Also, let’s not forget she also helped organize Meghan Markle’s baby shower. We stan a good friend!
  2. TheUfuoma Her passion for traveling the world and sharing life saving tips is what put Jessica on our list. She’s dedicated, passionate, consistent and amazing. Her blog is colorful and full of life! She shares stories of her travels and makes her readers feel like they are right there with her.
  3. Amy Purdy is a three times paralympic snowboard medalist, NY time bestseller, actress, model and so much more. At the age of 19 she had a bilateral below the knee amputation and that did not stop her. She moved past it. It did not become a limitation. She is soaring high like nothing ever happened to her. Feel free to listen to her TED Talk here when you can.
  4. Clementine Affana is not only a Medical Doctor, she is a travel blogger and a really good one at that. Her passion for travel and discovering new places is palpable. She has a sweet soul and it radiates through her pictures! She is working hard to be a Neurosurgeon and has interned in reputable hospitals and organisations. She knows what she wants and nothing stops her from going for it. We stan a focused woman!
  5. Tahereh Mafi is one of our favorite authors. We only discovered her late last year. She is an Iranian American writer who is known for writing young adult fiction novels. She’s fairly new in the game but i’m so inspired by her work ethics! She inspires me to write!
  6. Tiese. We remember the first time we visited her blog. We absolutely loved it. We’d never seen a blog like hers. Yes, there are lots of travel blogs but Tiiese tells her stories differently. It was like we were reading a book. She writes beautifully! We later found out she’s a book lover and we’ve connected through books. We found out about her day job on Kacheetee’s blog and we were like ‘can she be any cooler?’
  7. Kacheetee. We found her blog through twitter and we’ve loved it ever since. Kachee’s blog is filled with vital informations and stories. You can’t visit her blog and leave uninspired. She is dedicated and has been consistent since we started following her blog. She inspires us to do better, be better and keep going.
  8. Dr. Stella Ameyo Adadevoh. This would’ve been a silly list if we did not include the late Dr. She crosses our minds every now and then and we just can’t fully express how inspiring she was. Words fail us. Working as a Doctor in Nigeria isn’t amazing. This is from experience. She saw the first ebola patient and she quarantined him, made contact with the authorities, and ensured the provision of protective materials to the hospital staff. She saved a lot of lives and ended up losing hers. We are so inspired. We sometimes imagine the mess Nigeria would’ve been in if she hadn’t stopped the first Ebola patient from traveling to Calabar.
  9. Alessandra is a book and lifestyle blogger over at http://literandra.com/
    We connected through Instagram. She is a PhD student in the UK and i can imagine how busy and stressful that is but she still finds time to be supportive and consistent. I love that she is a feminist. You can read some of her powerful posts on her blog.
  10. Last but definitely not the least is our Sister Dr. Gbemisola. Yes, she is also a medical Doctor. She is one of the strongest women we know. She never dwells on setbacks or disappointments. We have been through so much together and she remains one of the most positive people around us. She is also an amazing mother. She inspires us.

These women have inspired us and we specially wish them a happy international women’s day.


I hope every woman reading this is having a wonderful day! Sorry guys not today.

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Circa Lagos – Worth the hype?

There’s a popular saying about how time waits for no man. Have you ever wondered the patience levels it has for women? Non existent!

So it was that on this particular day, Titi and I were bored and wanted somewhere to pass time and have fun. Somewhere close with good scenery and food – also fit for our musings without distractions.

And so we prepared but then, it seems every time we want to do something together in Lagos, the weather decides to f*ck shit up! Because down came the rain. See, I’m not even sure why it’s raining in March. 🤷🏾‍♀ Anyway, we weathered the storm (see what I did there?) and still headed out. The focus was obviously on a place with a nice indoor ambience and proximity to the house.

We decided on Circa Lagos. We’d heard a lot about this place and it was fun to finally be here

There is a “Circa non pareil” located on Admiralty road. This is more of a bar I think. Circa Lagos is located at No 2 Kola Adeyina Close, Lekki phase 1.

On getting there, we saw the famous wall and decided to have a mini photoshoot. The security guy on duty politely agreed to take pictures of us. He was even open to corrections as regards the positioning of the camera. This was already a good sign as far as we were concerned.

After our photoshoot, we entered the restaurant and noticed it’s a small space compared to most restaurants in Lagos but it has that minimalist vibe which we absolutely love.

We loved that It wasn’t so crowded as well maybe because we visited on a week day.

We came there to work and they had free WiFi. So it can actually double as a quick work space if you’re a creative. Obviously we were loving it but the most important thing for me is the food. It’s not ambience I came to eat dears.

We quickly scanned through the menu and placed our order. I ordered Fish and fries (because I’ve learnt that in Lagos I’d rather be safe than sorry) with a strawberry margarita. Titi ordered some sort of seafood Alfredo pasta with a virgin Pina colada.

The waitresses were polite and indulged our numerous requests to take pictures of us while we waited for our food. We didn’t have to wait too long before the food arrived and the food was so delicious. The portions were not bad either. I don’t eat large portions but I was full and still had some to take home with me. I wasn’t so impressed with the cocktail – maybe because the week before I had the same cocktail at Crossroads and it was heavenly but I wasn’t so bothered because the food made up for it.

The budget for having a decent meal here is approx. 10k per person.

I got at least 3 Instagram messages from random people saying they really love the restaurant and the food there. So they are definitely doing something right.

So if you’re looking for a cute , intimate restaurant for lunch or dinner alone or with friends in Lekki, then Circa Lagos is the place for you.

You can follow us on Instagram for more pictures because like I said we had a mini photoshoot and you must see everything.

Location – With google maps you should easily locate it. However it does not look like a restaurant from outside so you might think you’re entering someone’s house.

Budget – At least 10k per person

Ambience – 👍👍👍👍

Food – 🤙🤙🤙🤙.5

customer service – 👍👍👍👍👍

I hope you enjoyed reading this review. Have you been to Circa Lagos? Will you revisit ?


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— TOSIN

Swinging out of mood swings

Hey guys! How’s it going?

So a little personal information, You know how it seems like Nigeria is set up to just frustrate you and drive you bonkers? I’ve been experiencing that first hand recently as I’ve been struggling with getting a decent job. It’s been about 2 months now and lately I find myself getting moody and sad about it and life in general – tempted to use the word depressed but then I’m a doctor and I know I absolutely am not depressed.

I often get in these moods on Mondays maybe because I feel every responsible adult is off to work and I have nothing much to do. Recently however, I have found 6 ways to get out of these horrible moods and I know someone is going to see this post and just relate or even try my get-out-of-a-bad mood plan and it just might work for them! . So hey! I thought I’d be nice enough to share.

The first thing i do is pray – I don’t know if this is a regular thing to do but it works for me. I pray and then make a list of reasons to be thankful in my head and then I go ahead and just thank God – especially for the fact that I even have a list.

To be honest, I feel just slightly better right after praying so I move on to the next thing which is

– Eat. I find something I’m craving and eat it. Don’t worry if you feel guilty for spending money you’re not making. It’s normal. Just eat. – try to eat healthy o cuz I won’t be blamed/ responsible if you have chronic illnesses. (Haha!) Thanks

– After eating, If i still don’t feel better, I call or talk to a friend. Just let it all out. If possible cry. If the tears are held up, I just talk and talk until I realize I should probably let my friend get on with her life because I mean she has a life and things to do as well. I believe in the power of positive venting especially to someone who actively listens.

Also please, be sensitive and always ask if your friends – no matter how close y’all are, are available to talk. Don’t just bombard people with rants.

I usually feel like 70% better after praying, eating and ranting but then they don’t call me napaholic for nothing. I take a sweet nap. Guys I always wake up feeling refreshed (except the devil is working overtime that day) and at this stage I’m like 80% better.

To round it off, I go on the internet and read random peoples stories – mostly HONY. Nothing gets me out of my shitty, unemployed, sad mood as fast as a story of how things could be so much worse.

Tip: (sometimes, what we need is to attract positive stuff, so reading success stories is also another way to get going)

Now usually I’m about 90% better and I snap out of it and just get on with my day and try to be as productive or unproductive as I can be.

I remember asking people on Instagram how they get out of bad moods and here are some replies I got.

Be by myself for a while, self pep talk, listen to music.

Eat, cry and sleep.

Change the environment or write it out.

Go out of my way to be nice to someone.

A good read, music. Sometimes I call any of the really great people in my life.

Cry

Eat

Listen to music , paint or I lay down and go to my own imaginary world. It’s not so bad there.


If you’ve read up to this point, I hope you’re already feeling better. Also, don’t forget to share with your friends and family.


I’d like to know how you get over a bad mood. Who knows ? It just might help someone out there!

The perfect getaway spot in Lagos – Lakowe Lakes

Daily we rant and vent about how draining Lagos can be. From the hassle of waking up early (to beat traffic) and get to work, to the stress of closing late (and getting stuck in traffic) to get home. We crave that relaxing getaway but our bank accounts tell us “don’t try it!” and the thought of long journeys make it all not worth it. But what if I told you there’s a friendly neighborhood solution to this?

So let’s say you are looking for a perfect spot for that trip with your girls? A baecation? Or just want to spend some time out of your house but still within Lagos? Ladies and gentlemen, think Lakowe Lakes!

During the month, I was invited by Filmorealty to spend the weekend at Lakowe Lakes and I must say, my expectations weren’t grand but by the time I had to leave, they were pretty much exceeded.

The resort is located at KM 35, Lekki-Epe Expressway, Lakowe, Ibeju Lekki, Lagos. (Just use Google maps and save yourself the stress). Don’t let the KM deceive you, It’s not on the way to Ibadan, but just slightly after Ajah – slightly.  The first thing that caught my attention as we drove in was the beautiful buildings arranged systematically, with pedestrian pathway, this is perfect for you fitfam folk who like to jog and run.

We arrived at our apartment, a one-bedroom apartment with a view. Apartments come in different shapes and sizes – cabins, apartments of different sizes etc. and all fully furnished. There’s also cable tv (so you can keep up with your football games or series), kitchen utensils, towels, shower gel were also provided. All you basically need to do is bring yourself. Oh! I love the fact that you can cook if you so wish to. There is also a restaurant available if you are like me that wont be caught cooking on a getaway.

Beyond the living area, there’s other fun stuff to do around the grounds so if… just if you get bored, you have alternatives.

I will be detailing all the activities I got up to but list is not limited to this. Lets dive in shall we?

TAKE A STROLL AND EXPLORE LAKOWE LAKES

The entire resort was so calming and picturesque.

LEARN HOW TO FISH AND MAYBE CATCH A FISH

I have never done anything like this so I was definitely pumped to experience this. I was hoping to catch a fish and maybe roast the fish, sadly I didn’t catch any. It was fun all the same.

GOLFING

This was also a first-time experience, The instructors personalized the experience and made time for a one-on-one training with everyone. Immediately I got the hang out it, your girl couldn’t stop.

MOVIE UNDER THE STARS

We ended the day by seeing a movie under the stars, popcorn and soda were provided.

SPORTS

I love the fact that right in front of my apartments, table tennis and bicycles were available for the sports love. Of course trust me to explore this. Learned very quick that I suck at both.

Please share your thoughts on Lakowe Lakes, will you be visiting?

Want more information, Interested? You can reach out to us on Instagram or twitter for any enquiries.

January Reads

Hey y’all!

How’s it going ? So if you don’t know my reading goal for the year, you should probably follow me on goodreads – Tosin Ade. For those that know, I think I’m doing alright.

I read 4 books in January. Bear in mind that January was one of my worst months ever. A lot of things happened that made me question life. I’m alive and healthy tho so I’m still thankful.

  • The first book I read was Brooklyn by Colm Toibin

I absolutely loved this book.

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The book is largely about Eilis an Irish lady in the 50s who lives with her mother and sister in Ireland. A very simple and boring life if you ask me. She however was struggling to get a job when an Irish Priest from America came and told the family about job opportunities in America. Colm takes us on a journey of how she struggled in her new environment away from the familiarity and comfort of her home, how she fell in love with the sweetest guy, Tony , how she experienced new things. The book was divided into four parts and I must say the fourth part was super frustrating. (This is why I gave the book 4.5 stars) Eilis is such a sweet character tho and I think Colm did a fantastic job with her. He wrote so well you could almost understand and feel what she was feeling.

  • The second book I read in January was Wake Me When I’m Gone by Odafe Atogun
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Ese, a young lady who recently lost her husband lives in a remote village somewhere in Nigeria with her son Noah. The book follows the story of Ese, her life, the tribulations and trials she went through. The ridiculous traditions and cultural practices she had to endure. It was a very simple story but I did not love it. It was almost impossible to connect with the characters. I’d probably not have finished it if it was a bigger book.I did find some parts hilarious but it was still pretty bleh for me. Just felt like a pointless story if I’m being honest. An unrealistic plot. I gave it 3 Stars.

  • The third book I read was Simon Vs The Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli

This is such an adorable book!

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It follows the story of Simon a gay teenager, his friends and his journey to finally coming out and meeting his secret friend/lover who he has been emailing for a while. The emails between Simon and blue were my favorite part of the book. It was also super easy to read. Written in a conversational tone. I started listening to the audiobook but I just couldn’t finish it so I switched to the ebook and I couldn’t drop it. The guesses and the struggle to figure out who Blue was kept me glued. I gave it 4 Stars.

  • The fourth and last book I read in January was I Can’t Make This Up by Kevin Hart

You guys! I loved this book!

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I’ve always been a fan of Kev so I knew I’d enjoy it. It was a book about his life and journey to fame. Of course I expected it to be funny because duh it’s Kevin Hart! but it wasn’t just a funny book about his life. It also felt like a motivational/inspirational book. With kelvin there is always a lesson to learn. I basically had to stop myself from taking pictures of every page. So many good quotes man! He also seems like a very positive guy (I could definitely learn a thing or two from him in that aspect ). I lowkey wish he wrote it after the cheating scandal tho. Always here for the juicy behind the scene gist. Of course I gave this 5 Stars!

So guys, how many books were you able to read last month?

The Perfect dinner movie – Nothing to hide

We all have that friend or group of friends we absolutely love to hang with, yes? But ever found out if you really know them into their deepest secrets?

Watched a movie the other day that brought this to the fore. Titled “Nothing to hide”

Now, it’s about a bunch of old friends who decided to play a ‘game’ during a dinner night hosted by one of the couples.

The rules of the game were quite simple – everyone has to place their mobile phones at the center of the table and every text message, phone call, email, Facebook message, etc. will be shared verbally with everyone else at the table.

This is clearly a recipe of disaster. A typical example of ‘if-it-ain’t-broke-don’t-fix-it’.

As the evening proceeds, It unravels a whole lot of hidden issues as they all had something to hide, phones go off, bitter truths are revealed, feelings are hurt, and old friends quickly realize they really don’t know each other completely.

My favorite scene was the father – daughter conversation – Daughter called her dad about losing her virginity and he said “If it was just for me, I’d say don’t do it, don’t ever do it. Stay my little girl forever. But that’s impossible.”

“Nothing to hide” is a good balance of funny, touching and dramatic moments. I particularly loved the plot twists, the ending was unexpected.

I thoroughly enjoyed it and recommend this.

This movie just reiterates the fact that mobile phones and social media allows us to build a life that is probably far from the truth.

IMDB rated it 6.8, I’ll rate it 8/10.


What would happen if your private messages were read in public? Will you play this game?

TITI

On friendship

Hey y’all.

We are kicking ass at this consistency thing eh?!

Anything for y’all!

So, I’ve always been known to have that one close friend ever since I knew or thought I knew what friendship was all about. I’ve never had a group of friends. I sometimes wish I do but I’m happy with the 3 close friends I have.

When I was in primary school, I remember having just one close friend, then I moved on to secondary school where I also had one close friend from JSS1-3, as I changed classes in SS1, I somehow stopped talking to my old close friend and got another close friend. Everyone in school knew us together. We were inseparable!

At this point, i hadn’t realised my habit of dropping close friends once we had nothing in common again and acquiring new ones

Then I moved to another continent at 16 and the prospect of friendship became brighter for me. My first friends happened to be two in one. Two sisters who became my sisters. We talked, gossiped, laughed, cried, read together and it was amazing but then I had to go back home for a year and of course we didn’t speak as often as we used to (If the internet is so horrible now. Imagine how it was over 10 years ago) so of course, the worst happened. We drifted apart. I returned a year after but I didn’t expect them to stay friendless waiting for me to fill the vacuum I left. It wasn’t easy for me and I felt like all my friends had left the country at that point so I kinda just put the whole friendship thing on hold.

Just when i thought all hope was lost, i moved to a new apartment and guess what? I met the most amazing girls. I didn’t want to invest too much so soon because I knew I had less than 2 years left in Med School but as life would have it, we bonded over our life struggles, med school struggles and boy problems. I left but they remained my closest friends till date because i was deliberate about the friendship. I knew i couldn’t continue dropping my close friends as i moved on with life.

Then I moved back to Nigeria in 2015 and it just hit me over 3 years later that I actually have just one close friend in Lagos. I have friends don’t get me wrong. But is the person your person if you can’t call at 2am and expect a response (if they’re awake obvs)?

Adulthood is so hard you guys. It’s a struggle and a half to make friends as an adult. Everyone is so busy with life and i only get to talk to my close friends every other week sometimes month! Honestly, I think that’s alright. I love that everyone now understands this and we always pick up where we left off.

I believe in doing what works for you. I think we don’t need to put so much pressure on friendship. This is not me saying you won’t be deliberate. Oh man, I’m blabbing! You get the point though yes?

Friendship is something I struggle with but I know I’m not the only one struggling.

So I decided to ask a couple of friends (old & new) what friendship means to them and what a true friend is. ( Trust them to give me mini essays when I asked for a couple of sentences.)

Here are some responses I got.

Friendship to me is having someone in your corner that supports you. Someone you can be open to without the fear of being judged, someone to call you out on your bullshit, someone that rejoices with you on your wins. Most of all someone that understands you as a person and wants the very best for you.

A true friend is someone that is there for you through your ups and downs. An honest confidant.

For me, Friendship involves getting to know each other, accepting each other for who we are while still working together to get better where we are not. And because humans continuously evolve, friendship is a continuously evolving relationship.

To me, a true friend is someone who respects, appreciates, encourages and supports you genuinely. It is someone who wants to see you succeed just as much as you want to succeed, at any level and in any area of life. It’s also someone who would not be afraid to correct you when you’re wrong, and to speak the truth when needed. It’s also someone who would defend you in public, but then scold you behind close doors (when you deserve it). And even if you don’t stay in touch, you know you have a true friend when whenever you talk, it feels like they never left.

I think friendship is a bond/connection between two people. You share a special connection with this person and you always want to make sure they are happy..Trust and loyalty is very important for me..Having a listening ear is also important…we don’t need to talk everyday for me(except you are a boy) but you should be willing to listen to me when I need you.. I think a good friend is someone that should be forgiving and patient otherwise the friendship will not last because people always make mistakes and no one is perfect. A good friend should be able to shut his/her damn mouth when i tell you a secret…Now all these things should go both ways…A good friend should be an advisor ( tell you when you are going on the wrong path, to be honest i am struggling with that myself).Some people want good friends but they are terrible friends themselves ( they remember only when they need something 🙄🙄🙄). One thing i can not tolerate in is jealousy (i run away from such friends).

Friendship to me can mean anything or everything, depending on my mood and my viewpoint. Broadly speaking, I’ll say It is a bond or an unspoken agreement between atleast two people. It is that silent force that binds you and restrains you from doing any wrong(intentionally) to the person you’re in that agreement with. It’s way deeper than how we mostly interpret it. Friendship is trust. It is loyalty. It is a commitment. It is a decision. It is a gift that must be cherished. It is openness. It is honest dealing.

A true friend is one who sticks by, regardless of my shortcomings. He/She is one who would go any length to ensure my wellbeing, without necessarily having any expectation. One who genuinely cares and is unbiased in his/her dealings with me. A true friend sings of my strengths and complements my weaknesses. One who harbours hatred and resentment for me, yet laughs with me to my face isn’t a true friend; nothing is wrong with registering one’s displeasure. Forgiveness must have a free course in genuine friendship. Having true friends around me makes me go to bed with zero worries, I know they always have my back.


Don’t you just love the responses! Well, I absolutely enjoyed reading them and to think I didn’t post them all.

Do you agree with the responses? How would you describe a true friend. Most of all, Are you a true friend?

TOSIN