First of all, I wanna say thank you to everyone that read the first part and left comments! So glad you enjoyed it and found it helpful.
If you’ve been carrying last and haven’t read the first part, you can read it Here.
Now let’s wrap this up shall we?
People will complain of not eating, People will complain of drinks, and guess what? Everybody will be fine last last. I didn’t kill myself over this. I did my best and left the rest for GOD. One key thing to note though: Always prepare for uninvited guests.
We made access cards for the younger crowd and invitations for our parents guests. I think it’s cute and obviously cost efficient. This rather than making invitation cards for everyone. We also sent out E-invites to some friends who we couldn’t get the physical access cards to, and this worked as well. Every little cost that can be avoided counts.
If you have a theme, perfect. I didn’t, I wanted a lot of flowers, I wanted chandeliers. I wanted candles. I am sure my decorator was wondering what type of bride is this. I was pretty vague. Decorations was one of the expensive things on our list, but deservedly so. It came out amazing. Decorator – STYLISTA
People generally say “dress the way you want to be addressed” These days, your dressing is not even complete if you actually don’t look the part facially.
What’s a beautiful dress if I looked plain and boring? A plain and boring girl in a beautiful dress. You’re right! I went through a million pictures and pages before concluding on my make up vendor. You must be able to spot the experts who are good at just traditional style makeup, those who are really good with ‘white makeup’ and those who can actually do both. Finding someone good with both isn’t the easiest but hey i did it. “Beautybyqueen” was pretty dope for me. I must say I was also particular about using a make up artist with no attitude, because I’m not about that life, so yeah, luckily i didn’t have to deal with that.
Other factors to consider when sealing the makeup deal are, who does the maid of honor or mother’s makeup? Is it complementary? is she gonna have to retouch or nah? I wanted the total package lol. You don’t want to go wrong with your makeup. Although we started late and i probably didn’t need the touch up but it was too late to cancel and i didn’t even remember that. BeautybyQueen slayed my face, what?? just take a look
While planning and considering our budget, we were not going to have an entire paparazzi team of photographers (because of cost). But during discussions, we realized it works better having at least two guys manning the lenses. One man can’t do the job, well, he can, but it’s not effective especially if you want to get those early morning shots of the bride preparing and the groom preparing. How will it happen if they aren’t at the same hotel? You surely don’t want your photographer shuttling and fagged out before the event starts.
Oh i forgot pre wedding shoot. Best you strike a deal for introduction, traditional, white and prewedding. It is more efficient negotiating a total package. I didn’t take time concluding on this mostly because my photographer was kinda like a friend already and i was comfortable with his work. Seyi can be extra with his shoot tho, *one more pose* *can you put your hands on his stomach* *can you giive me that queen pose* *can you give me that killer smile* at some point i started getting cranky like *leave me alone, i am tired AH*. My maid of honor whispered *you better suck it up and pose, you need all this pictures o* I am glad they pushed me. You need to capture as much as you can, now i just go through the album with the biigest smile. He did an awesome job and went over and beyond to even share with his social media network and connects. So so grateful.
PHOTOGRAPHER – SEYITURBOSTUDIOS (IG)
My baby can die for fruit cake (such a weirdo, I know) so i knew the wedding cake had to be mad. Major issue was looking for the design. I wanted something simple and cute. Eventually concluded on the below
We had to cut and wrap pieces and dropped it on the table. My mum made it a necessity, i wonder why guests need to taste your wedding cake.
Random:, i love how there’s so much wedding cake left over in the fridge for the times you feel like. Though I’m not sure its gonna last with the rate my husband goes to get ‘a slice.’
For desserts, i used a different vendor, it was a mixture of ice cream and cake. i just wanted to make sure no vendor is overwhelmed.
These niggas can make or mar your wedding. I absolutely loved the DJ, i couldnt relate much to the band but people that could, said they were pretty dope too. The band were a highlife group from Asaba. So it was mostly native songs they played.
The music generally was on point. Zero glitches, from the dancing in to daughter/father and son/mother dance. The DJ was on his ‘A’ game and made the after party super lit. I totally recommend him. Everybody was turnt.. EVERYBODY!!!!!
Might I add that if you’re going to have both a DJ and a band, ensure you have a meeting with both (alongside your MC) to ensure harmony between them.
Considering the fact my husband is an MC (please note o!) And into compering events and hosting, he was pretty particular about who handles the day. if he could, he’d have done it himself i’m sure. We definitely didn’t want the comedians as they often make it all about themselves (with the couple as an afterthought). He wanted someone who would keep it professional yet fun and also stick to the agreed programme. We had had a meeting earlier to discuss how the flow should be and other important things. Eventually, we got our man, pretty good at the job. Good looking too haha. He’s also friends and birthday mates with my husband. At least since he couldn’t do it, he got someone born on the same day to do it.
MC @Nnamdiak did a great job.
I think second dress is extremely necessary especially if your wedding dress is gonna be similar to mine, or if you’re having an after party. As much as i loved my wedding dress, turning up in it was clearly not going to be fun. Another alternative is making a 2 in 1 wedding dress that can easily be switched up into something more comfortable.
I used a black dress- black? I know right?! can you imagine that? I was initially skeptical but it was perfect. Love love love it.
Quite a post right? yeah lets wrap it up. If you can and considering your venue and safety of your guests and their property, try to at least get the services of some proper security team. Most venues have ‘gatemen’ not ‘guards’ and these probably liaise with and are familiar with the area touts, so get those hefty looking guys in uniform to man your security .
The After party is like a different ceremony, don’t underestimate this. Gotta twerk without parents giving you side eye and all that shit. Stock up on drinks as much as you can. Talking of drinks, it’s never a bad idea to buy cartons and store way ahead (cos prices go up) and my husband had very very supportive friends who pledged cartons of spirits which were used for the after party. Best guys tbh. (He’ll want me to S/O Victor, Seyi, Tunji, Terdoo, Ahbu, Yemi, Olisa) and all the mandem that came through. Thank you
Grateful to all my amazing friends and family. Best support system a girl can ask for. I LOVED MY WEDDING!!! IT WAS PERFECT!!!
Have a lovely weekend!
A lot of people keep asking what I’m doing now that I’ve finished housejob. Honestly, I wish I had like a focused/deep answer to tell y’all but the truth is I’ve basically been trying to gain weight, hanging with my family, meeting new friends, reading a whole lot – non medical books. (Stop judging me! Sheesh!), working on making the blog better, watching YouTube videos on photography, trying to explore Lagos.
If that isn’t focused, then I don’t know what is.
On Saturday, we went to the beach. Now a lot of you should know that I love going to a good beach. Unfortunately, Since I’ve been back in Nigeria – 3 years now, I’ve honestly not been to a good beach. I know my standards are high coming from the Caribbean – beach heaven but i’m really not asking for too much. Nice clean white/black sand, clear blue water- okay maybe that’s a reach, tiki bar or a beach bar/restaurant, shade, nice blue sky is also not a terrible addition for the sake of the pictures and the gram! . I mean, is this really too much to ask for?
It’s very hard to see a clean beach in Lagos. I’m not sure why people are so dirty and think it’s normal to throw stuff in the ocean. Like have some self respect. Sheesh.
Let’s not even talk about how hard it is to get a nice picture on the beach with the background looking like a refuse ground.
Due to my terrible experiences, I barely go to the beach. In fact, I don’t think I own a bikini anymore. Totally not related to the fact that my ‘six pack’ abs is like one pack now.
This is almost turning to a rant. Typical.
Anyway, Last Saturday trip to the beach was initially supposed to be me going for my boyfriend’s friend’s birthday party but my people also decided to go to the beach- impromptu. I was already conflicted like damn. How will I divide myself now. Lo, and behold. It turned out to be the same beach. Look at God.
It wasn’t so difficult to locate the beach as one of us had already been before but we still had to get a bikeman to lead us there for N200.
On getting there, we paid N1,000 each. My nephew obviously did not have to pay so I assume it’s free for kids?
There was a car park area which I think is quite nice. The hustle to park cars in this Lagos is real.
It is super family friendly. There was a playground for kids. There was also a fun ride for adults/kids which we eventually decided to go on- turned out not to be free. It was N500 per person. I don’t know why I feel like they just looked at us and gave us price but maybe that’s just the Lagos babe in me talking. N500 is not too bad tho.
There were different bamboo shades with tables/seats where you could chill. The joke was when a random guy came and said we should pay N15k for the space. Super cute.
We did not pay because he said we could stay but we shouldn’t put our stuff on the table so people will know the place isn’t occupied. Lmao smh
There were different people selling stuff from bracelets, earrings,headbands, to goat meat -asun, chicken and chips, and coconut water.
The coconut water bit reminded me so much of the Caribbean. I miss the Caribbean so much.
There was also free music and random guys offering horse rides – Not free obvs.
Loved the fact that there were nice places to take pictures. However I Didn’t like the fact that the beach was crowded but who no like better thing? I heard it’s never really crowded normally though.
Location – Somewhere in Ajah.
What other beaches do you know in Lagos?
Have you even been to Atican beach? And did you like it? Let us know in the comments section.
P.S – who is looking forward to part 2 of the wedding series?
How’s it going?
So I started reading this book a week ago! I was ready to drop it after a couple of hours because it was so bleh to me. I thought it was a bit boring but I decided to just continue and see whether I’ll eventually get into it because that happens sometimes.
Surprisingly, that happened. I fell in love with the characters in the book. Although They’re so different and their struggles are so complicated and different, I felt something reading it.
First of all, I love the idea of a reading group especially among friends as it is an opportunity to do something outside your regular activities and gist as well and if you know me well, you know I love gist.
The book is basically about 5 women in a reading group and their lives. They meet once a month to discuss a book they’ve all read. (I really like some of the books they chose and might just go look for how to get and read them) Most times they get distracted by gist/real life issues but that made it feel real. For some of them it was a way of escape from their lives. They were dealing with infidelity, abortion, loss of a relative, infertility and so much more.
This isn’t supposed to be a book review. It was just supposed to be about some parts of the book I read and really liked but here we are!
The point where Harriet and Nicole were talking and Harriet felt like she married the wrong person, settled for less. She always felt like there was something or someone better for her out there.
I feel like, it’s like you reach a certain age and you choose the person you’re going to marry and you marry them and get membership to this club, and it’s a really nice club and you like all the other members, and you get to have a nice house and clothes and holidays and stuff, and great friends and you have these babies and these are like wow- the best thing that ever ever happened to you, and you can’t believe how much you love them but at the end of the day, when they’re in bed, and your friends have gone home and you’re sitting in your beautiful house, it stops being about all other stuff and it’s about that person you’ve chosen and only about them and they have to be the right person, because otherwise all of the other stuff doesn’t matter.
I was like damn sis. She literally has the best husband in the book but was too busy thinking the grass is greener on the other side.
Harriet and Nicole had the best conversations tbh. I absolutely loved their friendship.
Here, Nicole was talking to Harriet about her serial cheater of a husband. She was the wife that kept forgiving him and felt that she was the problem. So terrible.
Catching him in bed with that woman in Spain- well, it changed things for me. I think it changed me. It was like I could suddenly see things clearly. Like at that moment I realized it wasn’t my fault that Gavin is like he is. It isn’t because I’ve changed, or because something’s missing. It was never about me. It was about him having no strength, no willpower, no morals and, most of all, Harry having no love or respect for me.
I was like yassss sis. Finally!
I genuinely enjoyed reading this book even if it took a while for me to really get into it.
I’d give this book a 7 out of 10. Lol
P.S – I got this book along with two other books for N1,000 somewhere in CMS.
The weekend is over already! What did y’all do this weekend? Excited for the new week?
We went to the beach yesterday and it was amazing. Expect a review on the blog soon but you can follow us on Instagram to see some pictures from our beach day!
So the Saturday before the wedding was Titi’s aka Nikky’s bridal shower and thank God it was a success because it seemed ridiculous to plan a bridal shower without spending a ridiculous amount of money.
This diy post was inspired by Pinterest and @whogomake (IG).
So here is how I achieved this
First thing is to look for ideas for the design. What exactly do you want the toppers to look like, what you want printed on them and colors. Pinterest came through for this! There were lots of printable designs. Microsoft word also came through for the editing.
I initially wanted a pink background to go with the pink/sparkle theme but I realized it won’t look great on pink cupcakes.
Anyway, Once you’re done with the design, all you have to do is print them and cut them.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave a comment and share your fav DIY bloggers. Totally into this DIY thing now.
Hey guys! How’s it going?
I’m currently in Lagos for just two days. 😦 I wish I could stay longer but i have to go back to work on Monday, yes I’m aware it’s a public holiday but when you’re a Doctor, public holiday is nothing exciting. It’s just another day. Especially if you’re on call, it’s pretty much like a weekend call.
Anyway, im home and wide awake so I decided to type this post.
1. Prepare your mind for the worst.
I don’t mean to scare you but it works well for me. I prepare my mind for the worst and nothing can really surprise me anymore. Just know it’s going to be one long year and once you’ve accepted the fact that you’re in for struggle, you’ll be fine.
I really have no shame for confidently writing this because I have a terrible eating habit. I go from not eating to binge eating and the cycle goes on and on. It’s very easy to be overwhelmed with work and forget to eat. Yes, I didn’t think it was possible to forget to eat either until I started housejob. Have snacks in your bag. Work can go from zero to one hundred real quick and before you know what’s happening, it’s 8pm and you’ve not had a proper meal all day.
Be nice but not too nice.
I know it’s like I’m contradicting myself but I started house job with the ‘I’m going to be nice to everyone’ mentality and it didn’t take long for me to be like ‘uh fuck it’. Nigerians don’t like nice people. Nigerians respect you when you’re mean and you yell. Sadly. I mean, I’m not saying disrespect anybody but don’t let people walk all over you especially the nurses because they tend to think they know better and they always want you to do what they want you to do but if you really know what you’re doing, they can’t bullshit you into doing anything. Bottom line is know what you’re doing and stand your ground. Respectfully tell them to do their work and do yours. Nurses can be your best friend and your worst nightmare.
Don’t forget to read. I can count how many times I’ve opened my book to read. You’ll learn everyday and it gets overwhelming sometimes but get a small notebook and write down things you see/hear/learn so you can find time to go over them. I can’t promise you that you’ll find time. From being on call and not sleeping to doing 5hour ward round to being yelled at. Honestly, all I think about is sleep. I can’t come and die. Housejob kinda makes you better at clinical skills than theory because who has time to read honestly?
Rest. Rest. Rest.
I know this might sound like a foreign term to you but you gotta find time to rest. Even if you have to ’tissue’ to sleep. Do what you gotta do smartly. Except you’re ready to overwork yourself and burn out/collapse. I’ve heard stories from people i know and random people of how doctors faint at work from exhaustion. How sad is that? I have friends that have collapsed at work. It’s really not that deep. Do your work but try to rest. If you’re known to do your work well, no one can fault you for taking some time off to rest. I know it’s hard for some people *coughs*. I’m a workaholic and I barely rested these past few months but hey, even if I can’t take my own advice i can help someone out there!
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We have a big problem in the health division of this country. Doctors work like slaves yet we get peanut salaries.
We are overworked constantly. Maybe I should stop generalizing this.
I am always angry everyday.
Do you know how exhausting it is to be angry everyday? I know someone has whispered that ‘you’re in control of your Hapiness’ bullshit.’ Thanks for your input sis, I’m aware but when you work for 48hours straight and they are still blowing up your phone to do something for them, my first response is not ‘I’m in control of my Hapiness. So I’m not going to be angry’ my first response is ‘what kind of rubbish is this? Are there not rules in this place? Are you freaking mad?
People (senior colleagues) need to stop taking advantage of we the junior ones. It’s disgusting tbh. Frankly, I don’t care if one of them read this post. It has to be said.
Not only do we get sent on stupid errands, which is very unprofessional btw but we also get spoken to anyhow. Like bro/sis, dont be unfortunate. Don’t speak to me like you’ve got no manners.
Everyone frustrates you. Your fellow doctors, the nurses, patients relatives, even the hospital maid and the cleaner. It’s almost like damn, when are we actually going to focus on the patient.
On a ward round, your senior colleague that obviously does not know how to speak and correct politely will yell in front of the patient, their relatives and the whole ward about how useless the young doctors are. I will say though that not all of them are like this. I’ve worked with some amazing people who taught and corrected young doctors with respect.
You ask the nurse politely for the patient’s chart, you get yelled at. When you correct their mistakes and ask them to do their work, they gather and say you have attitude problems. Ok ma.
The nurses don’t wanna do their work. All they want to do is call you that a patient’s IV line is in tissue. I’ve had to go site a line three times on the same patient in one night. This patient whose veins i could barely see despite the tourniquet was voluntarily removing it and the nurses did not really care. I mean it’s the doctors that site line so for all they care, he can remove it five times. So I mean, let him remove it and bleed every now and then. Where is the love?
Hospital maids/attendants/whatever else they like to be called don’t wanna do anything. All they wanna do is sit and talk all day. Once you tell them to go pick up drugs or drop something at the pharmacy, you’re looking for trouble or you tell them to go drop a sample at the lab. They’ll complain( yes, in front of everyone) about how they’re tired of walking and how they can’t walk far distances. Sis, why are you getting paid then? I don’t have energy because my response is always ‘ Ma, it’s your job o. I didn’t help you apply to a busy hospital as a hospital maid. So please do your job or quit.’ Stupes
Now let’s move to the patient’s relative. This one is a bit cultural. Nigerian adults think because you’re a young lady, they can speak to you anyhow. Like can we all respect ourselves here ffs! Or the younger relatives that call you ‘sister/nurse/eysss’. I had to tell a young man to never call me ‘eysss’ if you don’t have brain cells to see I’m a doctor and should be called doctor then I really don’t know again.
A recent encounter with a patient’s relative
Walked to the patient to resite his IV line. The whole place was a mess. (Half empty pure water satchets everywhere, used plates on the desk where his IV fluids and consumables should be. Opened the drawer and ended up touching a used spoon. FFS!!!!
Me: Hello, are you his son?
Me: you need to clear this place. This whole place is a mess.
Him: IS IT ME THAT DID IT NI? ABEG SISTER DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. WHATS YOUR OWN WITH USED PLATES? AH O GA O.
At this point he got me fucked up.
Me: ARE YOU SERIOUS? A YOUNG MAN LIKE YOU SEEING HOW NASTY THIS PLACE IS AND THATS WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF. PLEASE STEP OUTSIDE NOW!!!!! LIKE I DONT WANT TO SEE YOUR FACE HERE WHILE IM RESITING THIS LINE. MORE THAN HALF OF THE THINGS I NEED TO RESITE LINE YOU DONT HAVE. YET YOU CANT BE HUMBLE AND LET PEOPLE HELP YOU.
GO GET 5 PINK CANNULAS, COTTON WOOL AND GLOVES SIR.
He insisted he was not going to leave. Super cute.
Of course he left when i almost got security involved. You must be mad to think you can come and disrespect me at my place of work. Absolutely mad.
Its funny how if it was a huge male Doctor, he’d almost be prostrating every time. Trash. Nigerians are disrespectful. No manners. Nothing.
So imagine going to work and having to deal with all these people every single day.
I’m legit a very angry person now. Like I already had low tolerance for nonsense but now I don’t even think I have tolerance again sef.
I try to be positive and just not be so angry all the time but it’s really hard when everyone makes your work 10x harder than it should be.
We really need to fix up in this country because patients will continue to suffer for the mess. I’m not going to work for 48 hours barely eating and sleeping and not snap at someone stupid.
Ok I’m done ranting.
Have a good weekend.
I’m on call on Sunday and Im not answering any phone calls today because I can’t come and die.
(PS- If you’re planning to work in Nigeria as a Doctor, don’t do it abeg. Don’t say I didn’t warn you o)