Monthly goals?

895-goalsmonthly-goalsHi guys, how are you doing?
Your weekend go good? Last week was loaded was with work related trainings with some great facilitators. While I’d rather have been on some beach sipping exotic juices, they did manage to catch my attention more than once and they triggered certain thoughts: like what is my life? What am i doing? Am i on track? Do you sometimes feel like you are not achieving your goals, or not even setting one? and feel a bit down and all that sad stuff?
What if we all set goals and try to achieve them this month? Nothing too dramatic, it could be a book you’ve been trying to read for a while now, or a soup you wanted to make. (This marriage life got me thinking soups now, wow!)
Tosin any goals for the month? – Titi
Yeah, actually. I’m lowkey trying to get a job. I mean Nysc is in two months and it just seems like a really long time right now. I mean I won’t lie and say I’m not enjoying the post housejob resting sha – Tosin
Exactly, i was going to say the exact same thing. Enjoy it. I wished i made more memories when i was jobless. – Titi
LMAO! I don’t know how I feel about that word ‘jobless’ tho – Tosin
You are kinda jobless yeah? – Titi
Such an intense word. But Why are you now shouting? Well, I’m also trying to explore Lagos a little bit. I went to “bogobiri house” and “the jazzhole” the other day, and they weren’t half bad to be honest. So if you know any cool/quiet spots in Lagos, holla at your girl – Tosin
I’m just goint to be here hating on you and all your free time. – Titi
With salary entering every month. Must be niceee – Tosin
Lol it is quite nice. Anyways i was asking you about monthly goals. – Titi
I don’t know how we got here. Lol  I’ve mentioned my goals na – Tosin
I feel like i sometimes get so tired and overwhelmed with what i am doing, where i want to be, where i think i should be and other times i look at my life and i am like, Girl you are doing amazing. – Titi
I totally get you! Tbh – Tosin
I am trying to set realistic goals, of course sometimes goals can be challenging but i have to remind myself “no pressure, no pressure.” Monthly goals, hmm its already 16th o. So i don’t know about this month. Maybe I should rename it to ’30-day goals’.
But on my roster, I have to figure out if i am writing my professional exams this december. If i am, I have to register.
Then I definitely have to read a book and review it on the blog much later.
I need to finish Game of Thrones, AH! This one is a major need, Because my husband is over my slow ass. lol. – Titi
Okay I’m lowkey tired of typing lmao that will be removed obvs – Tosin
Lmfao. Nope – Titi
I don’t know what you people see in the Game of Thrones. I watched season 1 when they first started showing it and fell asleep every time! Zzzz  Lmao aww at reading a book. Which time do you have to read book. Now that’s a goal – Tosin
Don’t let the GOT fans beat you up oh.  I am lowkey tired too  Lol  – Titi
You should totally write the professional exams. Me sef, I have to decide which country I wanna disappear to for their medical exams. Nigeria is a hot mess rn. Ain’t nobody tryna stay here –Tosin
I dont know what you are typing but i need to go back to my GOT. – Titi
Byeeee – Tosin
This is just not me o, remember we are posting this, no sweet words to your readers? Ok ok.
Thank you guys for reading, please subscribe. Tell us about your monthly goals, or what you think of ours? Can you relate? – Titi
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The wedding series- Part 2. 

Hey guys!

First of all, I wanna say thank you to everyone that read the first part and left comments! So glad you enjoyed it and found it helpful.

If you’ve been carrying last and haven’t read the first part, you can read it Here.

Now let’s wrap this up shall we?

FOOD
People will complain of not eating, People will complain of drinks, and guess what? Everybody will be fine last last. I didn’t kill myself over this. I did my best and left the rest for GOD. One key thing to note though: Always prepare for uninvited guests.

IV/ACESS CARD
We made access cards for the younger crowd and invitations for our parents guests. I think it’s cute and obviously cost efficient. This rather than making invitation cards for everyone. We also sent out E-invites to some friends who we couldn’t get the physical access cards to, and this worked as well. Every little cost that can be avoided counts.

DECORATION
If you have a theme, perfect. I didn’t, I wanted a lot of flowers, I wanted chandeliers. I wanted candles. I am sure my decorator was wondering what type of bride is this. I was pretty vague. Decorations was one of the expensive things on our list, but deservedly so. It came out amazing. Decorator – STYLISTA

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 MAKE UP

People generally say “dress the way you want to be addressed” These days, your dressing is not even complete if you actually don’t look the part facially.
What’s a beautiful dress if I looked plain and boring? A plain and boring girl in a beautiful dress. You’re right! I went through a million pictures and pages before concluding on my make up vendor. You must be able to spot the experts who are good at just traditional style makeup, those who are really good with ‘white makeup’ and those who can actually do both. Finding someone good with both isn’t the easiest but hey i did it. “Beautybyqueen” was pretty dope for me. I must say I was also particular about using a make up artist with no attitude, because I’m not about that life, so yeah, luckily i didn’t have to deal with that.

Other factors to consider when sealing the makeup deal are, who does the maid of honor or mother’s makeup? Is it complementary? is she gonna have to retouch or nah? I wanted the total package lol. You don’t want to go wrong with your makeup. Although we started late and i probably didn’t need the touch up but it was too late to cancel and i didn’t even remember that. BeautybyQueen slayed my face, what?? just take a look

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PHOTOGRAPHER

While planning and considering our budget, we were not going to have an entire paparazzi team of photographers (because of cost). But during discussions, we realized it works better having at least two guys manning the lenses. One man can’t do the job, well, he can, but it’s not effective especially if you want to get those early morning shots of the bride preparing and the groom preparing. How will it happen if they aren’t at the same hotel? You surely don’t want your photographer shuttling and fagged out before the event starts.

Oh i forgot pre wedding shoot. Best you strike a deal for introduction, traditional, white and prewedding. It is more efficient negotiating a total package. I didn’t take time concluding on this mostly because my photographer was kinda like a friend already and i was comfortable with his work. Seyi can be extra with his shoot tho, *one more pose* *can you put your hands on his stomach* *can you giive me that queen pose* *can you give me that killer smile* at some point i started getting cranky like *leave me alone, i am tired AH*. My maid of honor whispered *you better suck it up and pose, you need all this pictures o* I am glad they pushed me. You need to capture as much as you can, now i just go through the album with the biigest smile. He did an awesome job and went over and beyond to even share with his social media network and connects. So so grateful.

PHOTOGRAPHER – SEYITURBOSTUDIOS (IG)

CAKE

My baby can die for fruit cake (such a weirdo, I know) so i knew the wedding cake had to be mad. Major issue was looking for the design. I wanted something simple and cute. Eventually concluded on the below

We had to cut and wrap pieces and dropped it on the table. My mum made it a necessity, i wonder why guests need to taste your wedding cake.
Random:, i love how there’s so much wedding cake left over in the fridge for the times you feel like. Though I’m not sure its gonna last with the rate my husband goes to get ‘a slice.’
For desserts, i used a different vendor, it was a mixture of ice cream and cake. i just wanted to make sure no vendor is overwhelmed.


DJ/BAND

These niggas can make or mar your wedding. I absolutely loved the DJ, i couldnt relate much to the band but people that could, said they were pretty dope too. The band were a highlife group from Asaba. So it was mostly native songs they played.

The music generally was on point. Zero glitches, from the dancing in to daughter/father and son/mother dance. The DJ was on his ‘A’ game and made the after party super lit. I totally recommend him. Everybody was turnt.. EVERYBODY!!!!!

Might I add that if you’re going to have both a DJ and a band, ensure you have a meeting with both (alongside your MC) to ensure harmony between them.

DJ – DJGUNZEE

MC

Considering the fact my husband is an MC (please note o!) And into compering events and hosting, he was pretty particular about who handles the day. if he could, he’d have done it himself i’m sure. We definitely didn’t want the comedians as they often make it all about themselves (with the couple as an afterthought). He wanted someone who would keep it professional yet fun and also stick to the agreed programme. We had had a meeting earlier to discuss how the flow should be and other important things. Eventually, we got our man, pretty good at the job. Good looking too haha. He’s also friends and birthday mates with my husband. At least since he couldn’t do it, he got someone born on the same day to do it.

MC @Nnamdiak did a great job.

SECOND DRESS?

I think second dress is extremely necessary especially if your wedding dress is gonna be similar to mine, or if you’re having an after party. As much as i loved my wedding dress, turning up in it was clearly not going to be fun. Another alternative is making a 2 in 1 wedding dress that can easily be switched up into something more comfortable.
I used a black dress- black? I know right?! can you imagine that? I was initially skeptical but it was perfect. Love love love it.

OTHERS

Quite a post right? yeah lets wrap it up. If you can and considering your venue and safety of your guests and their property, try to at least get the services of some proper security team. Most venues have ‘gatemen’ not ‘guards’ and these probably liaise with and are familiar with the area touts, so get those hefty looking guys in uniform to man your security .
The After party is like a different ceremony, don’t underestimate this. Gotta twerk without parents giving you side eye and all that shit. Stock up on drinks as much as you can. Talking of drinks, it’s never a bad idea to buy cartons and store way ahead (cos prices go up) and my husband had very very supportive friends who pledged cartons of spirits which were used for the after party. Best guys tbh. (He’ll want me to S/O Victor, Seyi, Tunji, Terdoo, Ahbu, Yemi, Olisa) and all the mandem that came through. Thank you
Grateful to all my amazing friends and family. Best support system a girl can ask for. I LOVED MY WEDDING!!! IT WAS PERFECT!!!


img_9841-e1505504314357.jpgThank you guys for reading my wedding series post. Please please share your thoughts in the comment section below and don’t forget to subscribe and also follow us on InstagramTwitter and Facebook!

Have a lovely weekend!

TITI 

Post housejob Life – Atican beach 

Hey guys! 

A lot of people keep asking what I’m doing now that I’ve finished housejob.  Honestly, I wish I had like a focused/deep answer to tell y’all but the truth is I’ve basically been trying to gain weight, hanging with my family, meeting new friends, reading a whole lot – non medical books. (Stop judging me! Sheesh!), working on making the blog better, watching YouTube videos on photography, trying to explore Lagos. 

If that isn’t focused, then I don’t know what is.

On Saturday, we went to the beach. Now a lot of you should know that I love going to a good beach. Unfortunately, Since I’ve been back in Nigeria – 3 years now, I’ve  honestly not been to a good beach. I know my standards are high coming from the Caribbean – beach heaven but i’m really not asking for too much. Nice clean white/black sand, clear blue water- okay maybe that’s a reach, tiki bar or a beach bar/restaurant, shade, nice blue sky is also not a terrible addition for the sake of the pictures and the gram! . I mean, is this really too much to ask for? 

It’s very hard to see a clean beach in Lagos. I’m not sure why people are so dirty and think it’s normal to throw stuff in the ocean. Like have some self respect. Sheesh. 

Let’s not even talk about how hard it is to get a nice picture on the beach with the background looking like a refuse ground.  
Due to my terrible experiences, I barely go to the beach. In fact, I don’t think I own a bikini anymore. Totally not related to the fact that my ‘six pack’ abs is like one pack now. 

This is almost turning to a rant. Typical. 

Anyway, Last Saturday trip to the beach was initially supposed to be me going for my boyfriend’s friend’s birthday party but my people also decided to go to the beach- impromptu. I was already conflicted like damn. How will I divide myself now. Lo, and behold. It turned out to be the same beach. Look at God. 

It wasn’t so difficult to locate the beach as one of us had already been before but we still had to get a bikeman to lead us there for N200.

On getting there, we paid N1,000 each. My nephew obviously did not have to pay so I assume it’s free for kids? 

There was a car park area which I think is quite nice. The hustle to park cars in this Lagos is real.


It is super family friendly. There was a playground for kids. There was also a fun ride for adults/kids which we eventually decided to go on- turned out not to be free. It was N500 per person. I don’t know why I feel like they just looked at us and gave us price but maybe that’s just the Lagos babe in me talking. N500 is not too bad tho. 

This is manual as per two guys literally rolling the thing with their hands.

The view from up there. Magical.

I had a mini panic attack and told the guys to stop because i needed to get off ASAP!


There were different bamboo shades with tables/seats where you could chill. The joke was when a random guy came and said we should pay N15k for the space. Super cute.

Considering we were just four adults and one kid, we decided not to pay. Lol

 


We did not pay because he said we could stay but we shouldn’t put our stuff on the table so people will know the place isn’t occupied. Lmao smh 
There were different people selling stuff from bracelets, earrings,headbands, to goat meat -asun, chicken and chips, and coconut water. 

Bae got me the bracelet but I got the earrings and the headband for N500



The coconut water bit reminded me so much of the Caribbean. I miss the Caribbean so much. 

There was also free music and random guys offering horse rides – Not free obvs.
Loved the fact that there were nice places to take pictures. However I Didn’t like the fact that the beach was crowded but who no like better thing? I heard it’s never really crowded normally though. 


I really really like this beach and would definitely go there again.


Name of the beach – Atican beach. 

Location – Somewhere in Ajah. 
What other beaches do you know in Lagos? 

Have you even been to Atican beach? And did you like it? Let us know in the comments section. 

P.S – who is looking forward to part 2 of the wedding series? 

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TOSIN 

The Reading Group – Elizabeth Noble| Review-ish 

Hey! 

How’s it going?


So I started reading this book a week ago! I was ready to drop it after a couple of hours because it was so bleh to me. I thought it was a bit boring but I decided to just continue and see whether I’ll eventually get into it because that happens sometimes. 

Surprisingly, that happened. I fell in love with the characters in the book. Although They’re so different and their struggles  are so complicated and different, I felt something reading it.


First of all, I love the idea of a reading group especially among friends as it is an opportunity to do something outside your regular activities and gist as well and if you know me well, you know I love gist. 

The book is basically about 5 women in a reading group and their lives. They meet once a month to discuss a book they’ve all read. (I really like some of the books they chose and might just go look for how to get and read them) Most times they get distracted by gist/real life issues but that made it feel real. For some of them it was a way of escape from their lives. They were dealing with infidelity, abortion, loss of a relative, infertility and so much more. 

This isn’t supposed to be a book review. It was just supposed to be about some parts of  the book I read and really liked but here we are! 

The point where Harriet and Nicole were talking and Harriet felt like she married the wrong person, settled for less. She always felt like there was something or someone better for her out there. 

I feel like, it’s like you reach a certain age and you choose the person you’re going to marry and you marry them and get membership to this club, and it’s a really nice club and you like all the other members, and you get to have a nice house and clothes and holidays and stuff, and great friends and you have these babies and these are like wow- the best thing that ever ever happened to you, and you can’t believe how much you love them but at the end of the day, when they’re in bed, and your friends have gone home and you’re sitting in your beautiful house, it stops being about all other stuff and it’s about that person you’ve chosen and only about them and they have to be the right person, because otherwise all of the other stuff doesn’t matter. 

 I was like damn sis. She literally has the best husband in the book but was too busy thinking the grass is greener on the other side. 

Harriet and Nicole had the best conversations tbh. I absolutely loved their friendship.

Here, Nicole was talking to Harriet about her serial cheater of a husband. She was the wife that kept forgiving him and felt that she was the problem. So terrible. 

Catching him in bed with that woman in Spain- well, it changed things for me. I think it changed me. It was like I could suddenly see things clearly. Like at that moment I realized it wasn’t my fault that Gavin is like he is. It isn’t because I’ve changed, or because something’s missing. It was never about me. It was about him having no strength, no willpower, no morals and, most of all, Harry having no love or respect for me.

I was like yassss sis. Finally! 

I genuinely enjoyed reading this book even if it took a while for me to really get into it.

I’d give this book a 7 out of 10. Lol 


I don’t have the e-copy of the book but I might be willing to lend my copy out to anyone interested. Emphasis on might. 

P.S – I got this book along with two other books for N1,000 somewhere in CMS. 

The weekend is over already! What did y’all do this weekend? Excited for the new week? 

We went to the beach yesterday and it was amazing. Expect a review on the blog soon but you can follow us on Instagram to see some pictures from our beach day! 
TOSIN   

DIY | Cupcake toppers 

So the Saturday before the wedding was Titi’s aka Nikky’s bridal shower and thank God it was a success because it seemed ridiculous to plan a bridal shower without spending a ridiculous amount of money. 

This diy post was inspired by Pinterest and @whogomake (IG). 

So here is how I achieved this 


First thing is to look for ideas for the design. What exactly do you want the toppers to look like, what you want printed on them and colors. Pinterest came through for this! There were lots of printable designs. Microsoft word also came through for the editing. 

I initially wanted a pink background to go with the pink/sparkle theme but I realized it won’t look great on pink cupcakes. 

Anyway, Once you’re done with the design, all you have to do is print them and cut them. 

Once you’re done cutting, it’ll look like this 


Then you get your toothpicks and the best glue ever! 


Simply  glue the toothpick to the back of the topper.


And there you have it! 


I hope you enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave a comment and share your fav DIY bloggers. Totally into this DIY thing now. 

– TOSIN

Diary of a stressed house officer| 5 coping tips. 

Hey guys! How’s it going?

I’m currently in Lagos for just two days. 😦 I wish I could stay longer but i have to go back to work on Monday, yes I’m aware it’s a public holiday but when you’re a Doctor, public holiday is nothing exciting. It’s just another day. Especially if you’re on call, it’s pretty much like a weekend call. 

Anyway, im home and wide awake so I decided to type this post. 


Let’s get right in, shall we?

1. Prepare your mind for the worst. 

I don’t mean to scare you but it works well for me. I prepare my mind for the worst and  nothing can really surprise me anymore. Just know it’s going to be one long year and once you’ve accepted the fact that you’re in for struggle, you’ll be fine.

2. Eat. 

I really have no shame for confidently writing this because I have a terrible eating habit. I go from not eating to binge eating and the cycle goes on and on. It’s very easy to be overwhelmed with work and forget to eat. Yes, I didn’t think it was possible to forget to eat either until I started housejob. Have snacks in your bag. Work can go from zero to one hundred real quick and before you know what’s happening, it’s 8pm and you’ve not had a proper meal all day. 

3. 

Be nice but not too nice. 

I know it’s like I’m contradicting myself but I started house job with the ‘I’m going to be nice to everyone’ mentality and it didn’t take long for me to be like ‘uh fuck it’. Nigerians don’t like nice people. Nigerians respect you when you’re mean and you yell. Sadly. I mean, I’m not saying disrespect anybody but don’t let people walk all over you especially the nurses because they tend to think they know better and they always want you to do what they want you to do but if you really know what you’re doing, they can’t bullshit you into doing anything. Bottom line is know what you’re doing and stand your ground. Respectfully tell them to do their work and do yours. Nurses can be your best friend and your worst nightmare. 

4. 

Don’t forget to read. I can count how many times I’ve opened my book to read. You’ll learn everyday and it gets overwhelming sometimes but get a small notebook and write down things you see/hear/learn so you can find time to go over them. I can’t promise you that you’ll find time. From being on call and not sleeping to doing 5hour ward round to being yelled at. Honestly, all I think about is sleep. I can’t come and die. Housejob kinda makes you better at clinical skills than theory because who has time to read honestly? 

5. 

Rest. Rest. Rest.

I know this might sound like a foreign term to you but you gotta find time to rest. Even if you have to ’tissue’ to sleep. Do what you gotta do smartly. Except you’re ready to overwork yourself and burn out/collapse. I’ve heard stories from people i know and random people of how doctors faint at work from exhaustion. How sad is that? I have friends that have collapsed at work. It’s really not that deep. Do your work but try to rest. If you’re known to do your work well, no one can fault you for taking some time off to rest. I know it’s hard for some people *coughs*. I’m a workaholic and I barely rested these past few months but hey, even if I can’t take my own advice i can help someone out there! 
I hope you enjoyed reading this post. 

Want more tips? 

Drop a comment!

– TOSIN 

Two months….

You guys! I have two months left and i’m done with house job. I’m so excited!!! I’m officially starting a countdown. I can’t wait.

It feels like i started just yesterday. It really went by quickly. I remember feeling some type of way about moving to Ibadan. I remember the orientation process and my first day as a Doctor. It was overwhelming. How naive and clueless i was! It was ridiculous.

I have learnt and grown so much. I have met some cool people. I have worked with some stressful people and commended myself on how much I’ve grown by just being able to deal with them.

I started my internship with Obstetrics and Gynaecology, then moved to paediatrics and then Surgery. I’ve completed the first month in Medicine. .

I remember finding out I was posted to GIT/Liver unit and I was sad and happy at the same time. Sad because the unit is mad stressful in this hospital and happy because I actually don’t mind GIT. It was my favorite system back in Med school. I even did an elective rotation in GIT. That’s how much I loved it. 

The first month was a bit stressful as I was getting used to the unit. People weren’t exactly doing their work so it made everyone tense. I don’t mind the unit now though. I know what’s expected of me and what I need to do. 

Personally, I’ve been feeling somehow. Not sure if I can call it depression because that’s pretty big but I just don’t know if this is what I want to do with my life. I’m not sure being a Doctor makes me happy. A lot of people have said it’s probably because I’m in Nigeria and everything here is stress but deep down I feel like I’ll be miserable if I end up doing this forever. I’ve spoken to a few people about it and everyone is basically like you’ve got your whole life ahead. Ultimately, you gotta do what makes you happy. I mean, I love helping people feel better. It’s really overwhelming when you see someone come into the hospital really bad – almost dead ‘bad’ and they eventually leave conscious and well. It’s really amazing and the feeling that you played a role in making that happen is not something I can even discuss. Tew much! But I still wake up and feel sad. Almost like this is not what I should be doing with my life. Hopefully , i figure it out soon. Pray for me guys! 

On to happier news, I met my cute ass nephew last week. 😍  I’m looking forward to finishing housejob and starting NYSC much later in the year. I also look forward to next month as I’ll be welcoming my second nephew to the world. Super exciting. Titi is getting married in August so that’s super lit. Such a blessed year for my family tbh. 

What kind of post would this be if I don’t share pictures from the past few months? 
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